Still labeling children "idiots"

In life, I believe most parents have scolded their children for being stupid, such as, "Why are you so stupid, you can't even do such a simple problem", "Why do you look so dumb, you're so stupid", "How come other people are so smart, but you're so stupid". You are so dumb" ......

Every parent wants their child to be smart and have a high IQ, but family behavior is one of the factors that influence whether a child is smart or not, so a child being labeled as "stupid" or "dumb" may be a result of the parent's own failure to deal with family factors.

Children can't do the questions, often scolded by the mother as "stupid", who thought that the parents did not do the right thing

After her son went to school, to let him win at the starting line, Xingyue's important task was to tutor him on his homework, in addition to working and doing housework every day.

Every time she tutored him, she had a feeling why her child, who used to be so smart, was so stupid in doing his homework.

"Your brain is how to grow, this is a simple addition and subtraction problem, are finished breaking fingers, how the answer is still written wrong, I and your father as a child are quite good academic performance, how to you, even such a simple problem can not do, stupid ......

Xin Yue is worried about this, and she found that she said more, as if her son looks dumber and dumber.

This child is as stupid as her mother says. The son's sister-in-law, who works in a training class, told Xin Yue that she didn't take good care of the child, which caused the child's brain development to not keep up.

This sentence, Xin Yue instantly remembered, it seems that usually did not pay much attention to this aspect, because she and her husband are busy at work, in the morning casually some fast food, for the child to eat, a few times found that these breakfast children seem to have not touched.

Is it like what my son's sister-in-law said, the child's nutrition did not keep up, affecting brain development?

Don't try to label your child

There is an effect in psychology: when a person is labeled in a certain way, he or she will make self-image management to try to behave in line with the label, this effect is called the "label effect".

Children themselves cannot think logically and judge objectively, and their parents are the people they rely on most, so children will believe whatever their parents say, so the "label effect" is easily evident in children.

In the above case, the mother suspected that her son was getting dumber and dumber because she often called her child dumb and labeled him "dumb", which convinced him to believe that he was dumb.

Words are powerful, and in a child's eyes, a parent's words are even more powerful. Therefore, it is not advisable for parents to label their children as "stupid" when they realize that they are deficient in a certain area, otherwise the child's situation may get worse.

Instead of "labeling" the child, it is better to influence the child's growth through family behaviors.

If you handle these issues well, your child will be smart

1) Be sure to eat breakfast

Studies have shown that children who eat breakfast regularly have 40% higher math scores than children who don't or don't eat breakfast.

Breakfast is a source of energy for the day and has the effect of enhancing brain function and improving memory. If children do not eat breakfast, they are likely to suffer from burnout, inability to focus their brain power, and slow reactions.

2) Breastfeeding is recommended

Research studies have found that breastfed babies have higher IQs than formula-fed babies.

This is because breast milk contains nutrients that are incomparable to formula milk, such as nutrients that promote brain and nerve development, and active ingredients that stop bacteria and viruses. Therefore, breastfeeding is recommended until the child is more than six months old.

3) Cultivate the habit of reading in children

In reading, children can learn knowledge, grow insight, and improve cultivation and temperament ...... Therefore, cultivating the habit of reading from a young age will promote the development of the child's brain, and the child will become smarter.

4) Maintain adequate sleep

Generally speaking, 0-1-year-old babies need to sleep 12-20 hours a day, 1-3 years old is 12-13 hours.

Adequate sleep allows the child's body organs to rest and relax, including the brain, only the brain has enough time to rest, to provide power for better development.

5) No or less junk food

A study found that children who often eat junk food are at an intellectual disadvantage compared to children who eat a healthy diet.

Junk food is mostly high in sugar, oil, and additives, and more of it is not conducive to a child's development. Therefore, parents are advised to control their children's diet from childhood and try to eat healthily.

6) Don't eat too much

Some studies have found that often eating too much will inhibit the physiological functions of the brain's intelligent regions, and over time there may be premature aging of the brain and slow intellectual development.

Therefore, when children do not want to eat, parents had better stop in time, not feed them too much, and prevent children from overeating.

7) Let your child play games

Playing games can promote children's brain development and intellectual development, especially some intellectual games, such as Sudoku, crossword, quiz, etc.

Be patient in raising your child, don't blame the baby for the problem

In life, once the child has problems, many parents have an "instinct" that is to blame the problem on the child, for example, if the child's grades are not good, parents will only say the child "stupid", but do not think about why the child's grades are not good, is it really because of stupid? The reason for the child's poor performance is that he or she is really stupid.

This practice of putting any problem on the child, the child's problems will not be solved, and maybe more and more suffering; second, the child psychological may appear depressed, anxious, anxiety and have other health problems.

Therefore, instead of "labeling" their children, parents should patiently find the root cause of their children's "stupidity", "foolishness" and "foolishness", and then slowly work on it. "This is the only educational behavior that promotes the child's progress.

All the "labels" on a child's body will have an impact on their physical and mental development, personality, life direction, etc. As a parent, you should not become a "labeler" of your child but should help your child get rid of those "labels" that hurt their growth. Parents should not become "labelers" of their children but should help their children get rid of those "labels" that hurt their growth.