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Self-Defeat Attitude: 4 Ways to Help Your Child

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By Mohit ChawlaPublished 3 years ago 4 min read
Self-Defeat Attitude: 4 Ways to Help Your Child
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Self-Defeat Attitude: 4 Ways to Help Your Child

Adults are not the only ones who can have an attitude that is in line with self-defeat. This kind of behavior may even start during their younger years. More and more people are being noticed for this kind of behavior. If you are a parent and you have observed signs of this kind of behavior in your child then it is about time for you to take actions before it gets worse.

1st Step: Learn to Listen

When you are dealing with your kids and you want to help them become a better person by gradually eliminating those unfavorable traits such as self-defeat, you must learn how to listen. Listening is an integral part of any relationship, especially on a parent-child level. You will not be able to help anybody, not even your kids if you do not know how to do this properly.

Whenever your child is sharing something, may it be about their frustrations at school, patiently hear them out and avoid making reactions especially if they share an event in which they are not supposed to be involved. By listening to them, they will be more comfortable talking to you.

2nd Step: Let them Know That You Care

After listening to what your child has to say, it is now to let them know that you care about them. This should be established even before you give out any advice. If you have shared your piece and your child does not feel that you care for them, they will just reject your help never share their feelings with you ever again.

3rd Step: Believe In Your Child

After building trust and showing that you genuinely care for your child, you would then have to demonstrate that you believe in them. You need to show that you know they can change and they can turn their life around and become somebody which they have always wanted to be. This will help them realize that they can do it and they would need all the support that they can get especially from their parents.

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4th Step: Make Them Feel Safe with You

This goes beyond the actual and physically holding your child. This signifies that you have to make your child realize that they are safe with you and that you will hold whatever conversation that you both had in confidence. They must realize that you will always be there to help them get through all of it.

As a parent, you will be playing an important role in the development of your kids as a person. You need to be there whenever they need you. If you think that you and your child would need further help, you can always seek the assistance of an expert.

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The 3 Effects Of Self Damaging Behavior To Your Social Life

Having a good interpersonal relationship is vital especially when it comes to molding yourself to become a better person. However, there are cases wherein your very own attitude is hindering you from connecting to other people. If you are one of those individuals who are currently going through with this and you have recognized that you have a self-damaging behavior, you need to know how this will affect your social life.

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The Social Aspect of Your Life

This particular part of your daily living is very important. Your social life involves interacting with other people. These people may include family members, friends, neighbors, and even coworkers. You would have to socialize regardless of whether you are at work, school, or just at home with your family.

There are a lot of places where you could interact with other people. Socializing goes way beyond starting a conversation with others. This also applies to indirect actions that you perform. These actions will still create an impact on others like driving or during a competition.

If you have a self-damaging behavior affects your social life in 3 ways.

1. You will have very low esteem which means that you are usually aloof or all by yourself. You do not mingle with other people because you have very low self-esteem. In most instances, you can even be overly critical about yourself.

On the other hand, you can also have exaggerated self-esteem and you tend to have very high yet unreasonable and baseless regard for yourself. You criticize other people constantly without taking how they would feel into consideration. You can also be very self-centered. Because of these, several people will resent you and they would rather stay away from you instead of becoming your friends.

2. You may be too generous to others. If someone asks you something, you will not have the ability to say no. Even if the favor is at your own expense. Because of this trait, many people will take advantage of your being overly self-sacrificing.

3. You may never have a lasting relationship. This is because you are afraid to commit or you are fearful of intimacy. If you are in a relationship, your partner may not be treating you fairly yet, you still stick with them even if you know that other people are a lot better.

These are only a few of the effects of having a self-damaging behavior. Not only will your social life suffer, but you as a person will suffer the effects too.


About the Creator

Mohit Chawla

About me

I personally believe self made is not 100 % true.

Every person has got help by certain people.. They may be mentor, friends and team members but they surely are a part of their successful career.

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