People's Daily: the father must see these 10 things that the father wants to teach the child!

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Mothers mainly influence their children's basic sense of security, while fathers have a greater influence on their children's character development, especially after the age of 2.

People's Daily announced 10 things that a good father will teach his children.

If you have children at home, you must see them.

Listen to others.

Parents bring their children to counseling.

Accuse the child of all kinds of problems.

At this time, the child bowed his head and didn't say a word.

The counselor said, "can you leave me alone with the child?"

After Mom and Dad left, the counselor asked:

"is there anything you want to tell me?"

The child looked up with tears in his eyes and said:

"they won't listen to anything I say anyway."

Children's brain is not fully developed, and their attention is often not focused for too long, so they often "speak" rather than "listen".

To cultivate children who can listen, parents must first listen to their children:

Don't interrupt, listen more to the child.

This will leave the child with an idea that it is important to listen to others.

Learn to apologize.

Children are born with no apology.

For example, he might say something like this:

Mom, the water cup fell to the ground by itself.

When the wind blew, all my toys collapsed and hit my brother.

He fell by himself, not by me.

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If you accidentally overturn the water cup and hurt your partner, the child's first reaction may be embarrassment and confusion.

It's not because the child doesn't know how to apologize, but because he really doesn't realize that it has anything to do with him.

The implications of a good apology include:

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Take the initiative to take responsibility.

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Feel the impact of your actions on others.

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Will apologize in the right language.

It is better for parents to demonstrate first.

"Baby, tell Dad,'I accidentally pushed my younger brother and my younger brother fell down.'my younger brother is in pain. I'm really sorry."

Teach children to use sentence patterns like this:

"what did I do and what consequences did it lead to?"

"what my behavior makes other people feel."

Don't underestimate the sentence that begins with "I".

Although it is only a simple logical connection, saying this sentence means that the child is learning and understanding:

"if you do something wrong, you have to face it and take responsibility."

Usually fathers (mothers) admit their children's mistakes.

Let the child realize that apologizing is not cowardice, but a sign of bravery.

Face up to violence.

Father should teach his children: if you are bullied, you must not be afraid.

First, look the other person in the eye first.

Shout: "if you go on like that, I'll hit you!"

Remember, you must be firm and loud. You can't lose on momentum.

This sentence is to be wary of each other, to stop.

When he hears your rebuke, he will hesitate in action and feel that you are not a weak person who is easy to bully.

Moreover, when you say this sentence out loud, it is easy to attract the attention of other students and teachers.

Second, grab his wrist.

If something happens, first weigh the strength of yourself and the other party.

As long as you don't have the upper hand, you can take the initiative to defend and quickly grab his wrist.

First, after he was caught in the wrist, he was unable to exert his strength.

Second, it is sending a signal that I am not easy to mess with!

Third, ignore, indifferent, let the other party feel boring.

What if there is a wide gap between the strength of the other side and the other side?

Most of the time the purpose of the harasser is to provoke you.

It is better to be indifferent than to react violently.

The father must tell the child: don't worry, I will always be your patron.

Dedication spirit.

A father was washing dishes when the son ran up and said.

"Dad, I've helped my mother mop the floor."

After hearing this, the father did not praise his son.

Unexpectedly said to his son very seriously:

"son, don't talk about working for your mother in the future."

The son was very confused when he heard this.

Why don't you help?

My father replied:

"son, do you see that every time Dad washes the dishes, does he say to help his mother do it?"

Every time I mop the floor, I say whether I help my mother mop the floor or not.

Because each of us is a member of the family.

Everyone has to eat, everyone has to use a bowl.

Every floor in our house is shared.

So in the future, ah, let's not talk about what we did for our mother.

We're just doing what we're supposed to do. "

There is an idea in "undisciplined courage":

To cultivate children's spirit of giving is also to cultivate their self-confidence.

Children's self-confidence comes from a sense of value, and the process of paying for the people around them is the process of feeling self-worth.

Fail gracefully.

In 2012, Bai Yansong participated in reporting on the London Olympic Games.

Said such a thing:

There is an important sentence in the London Olympic Games.

It's called "influencing a generation".

A reporter asked: "how does sports affect a generation?"

An official of the London Olympic Organizing Committee replied:

Sports teach children how to win. "

This sentence is quite normal.

But I was particularly moved by his next words:

"at the same time, teach children how to lose with dignity and dignity."

At home, fathers can play games and exercise with their children more often.

Tell the child: failure is not terrible, on the contrary, failure is a norm.

Think more about the reasons for failure and try again and again.

Is more important than success.

Moderate risk.

There is a "junk playground" in Britain:

The faded plastic boat lay clumsily across, next to discarded tires, painted tin buckets, chairs with a missing corner.

Here, children can go wild and do a lot of things that adults look dangerous, such as starting a fire.

(of course, there is also a caretaker at a distance.

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The designer of "garbage Playground" is also a child educator.

The original intention of her design is that it is more important for children to take moderate risks than to be overprotected.

In psychology, experiencing the pleasure brought by stimulation and danger is a kind of physiological need of children.

This taught them how to overcome fear.

Fathers can take their children on these adventures:

1. High degree of exploration:

A bird's-eye view of the world is enough to evoke fear.

2. Try to recognize dangerous things:

Take the children close to the huge body of water, or close to the fire, let the children know that these things are dangerous.

3. Fighting or wrestling games:

In this way, children can learn to resist aggressive attacks and negotiate and cooperate.

Guide children to take risks and do well.