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Parents "crying poverty" can not educate good children

It is better to prove to them that "you get what you work for" with practical actions.

By Luo re LuoPublished about a year ago 5 min read
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The family is poor, so don't compare with others when you go out."

"Parents have a hard time earning money, you must study hard..."

It seems that I've heard this before, or maybe I've said it myself.

"Crying poverty" has become a basic skill that parents must master.

Some people say that crying poverty to children will make them inferior, timid, and sensitive; another saying is: "Poor children become a family early."

So, today we will talk about the advantages and disadvantages of this "cry poor", right?

01

The children raised by their parents cry and cry, and know how to be heartbreaking.

A parent who loves to cry poor will teach a child who "understands".

However, with such an understanding, there are also complaints.

There is a story in "The Odd Couple" where she went to the playground with her daughter, who wanted ice cream.

However, she couldn't bear to say no, so she bought herself one. In the end, it was just two bites and she stopped eating.

The mom was already worried about her money in front of quite a few people in the park.

"You know what? We're poor at home, you know? I don't even want to eat it myself, and you're such a waste!"

Then the consequences were obvious. The three-year-old girl cried out in fear, eating her ice cream while saying sorry.

Zhang stepped on Ling and learned that her daughter had a middle ear infection, so she had trouble swallowing.

Before their parents cry poor, they will tell them what they want, and when their parents cry for money, they will choose to be silent even if it hurts.

Hide their grievances inside and let their mothers listen.

They won't fight and they won't refuse.

The most heartbreaking thing is that those who are begged by their parents to "understand" the children.

02

Parents who cry over poverty are unable to provide their children with enough money to ensure their material well-being.

As a result, many children who lack funds are tempted by the outside world and go down a path from which there is no return.

Especially when they go to college, parents are not around and children are not alert enough to fall into the trap of campus loan sharks if they are not careful.

Some time ago, "a classmate borrowed 15,000, signed a contract is 19,000." Xiao Chen, a student, borrowed a sum of money from XX Wanda APP last year to apply for civil service training.

Her real loan was 15,000, but due to the so-called service fee, the total amount of the contract was raised to 19,000.

Xian Chen was unable to repay the debt and was in the predicament of using the loan to pay for the loan.

When children lack money, they should seek help from their closest parents.

However, because their parents are too poor to speak to their families, they are forced to turn to an unfamiliar society in a world that is far more evil than they can imagine.

Before entering society, children must develop a sense of values, understand the good and evil of society, and remember that "for richer or poorer, your parents will always have your back.

03

During the Han Dynasty, the country had just been established, and Lou Bang distributed his merits to more than a hundred ministers, bestowing large amounts of gold, silver, jewels, and land. When it came to Xian He, Xian He did not accept any reward from Lou Bang but picked some small pieces of barren land.

Lou Bang asked him why and said, "Barren land can inspire future generations to work hard at farming and know thrift." Fertile land, on the other hand, tends to make children slack off, which leads to the gradual decline of the family.

Sure enough, after more than a hundred years had passed, most of these people's families had declined, and only Xian He's family was still flourishing.

Zen Guofeng once said, "If you don't go through trials and tribulations, you don't get ahead." Children must be given difficulties and trials, not all kinds of superior conditions.

Ginseng Duo-fan's family motto is "good body" as "poor". In a letter to his eldest son, Zen J, Zen wrote: "All people from famous families are clothed, fed, housed, and acted like poor people so that they can achieve something."

In other words, the richer a person is, the more capable he is, the more restrained he is, and the more he is able to excel in material life, as the poor do.

No matter how good the education is, it is not as good as an adult "not easy"!

Nowadays, parents always want to give their children the best education, but they are hurting them.

In the process of growing up, the more materialistic children are, the less grateful they are, the less diligent they are, the lazier they are, and the more they hurt themselves.

And the proper education for children is to make them understand hardship and suffering, so that they can learn to be hardworking, which is the greatest gift.

It is easy to cry for the poor, but it is difficult to put yourself in the perspective of a person to understand a child. It is easy to make a child understand, but it is not easy to make his heart full.

"Little one, although there are more people in the family than our family is rich.

You're the same way now, asking for what you want."

Parents who habitually cry for their children are like putting an unbreakable shackle on their child, preventing him from exerting his maximum strength.

Instead of being a "burden" to your child, you should be a guide.

Instead of letting him see that his life is not as good as it could be, let him see that his life is wonderful.

Instead of "painstakingly" telling them that there is no money at home, you should prove to them that "you reap what you sow" with practical actions.

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