Optimistic parents raise optimistic children

I have a wonderful quote from myself: "Whenever I hear people talk about making more money to leave to their children and grandchildren, I always feel that they are taking away from their children the joy of living with all kinds of adventures. Every dollar they leave behind makes their children weak. The most valuable legacy is for their children to be able to make their way in life and to be able to stand on their own feet.

Optimism and self-confidence are like twin brothers that follow each other and can have a great impact on a person's life.

In the face of difficulties, optimism is like a suit of armor, resisting its attack and erosion.

In the face of difficulties, self-confidence is like a key, open the heart lock bravely forward.

Looking at the world's successful and attractive women, which one of them can't find the shadow of these twin brothers in their bodies? Do you want your children to become good women? Then first find the seed of optimism and self-confidence, sow it into your child's young heart, water it patiently, take care of it, and wait for it to blossom and take root!

About optimism, writer Alan said when discussing the wisdom of using happiness to do all kinds of struggle with troubles: "Worry is a kind of spiritual myopia we suffer from, we should look into the distance and keep a positive and optimistic mind so that our steps will be more firm and our heart will be more peaceful." If it's raining at the moment, guide your daughter to say "It's raining." Instead of saying, "Damn it, it's raining again." Because that doesn't change the fact that it's raining. Of course, even saying "Great, it's raining again." It doesn't change anything about the rain, but if you say it to a child, it makes a big difference! "Look, it's wonderful, it's raining again! The birds are singing, the grass is singing, and they are all being nourished by the rain." This will pass on the joy to the child and keep her in a happy mood no matter what circumstances she faces.

A perfect example of this can be found in the story of a cellist's childhood. One day he was dragging his cello, which was taller than his body, down the hallway at a brisk pace, obviously in a good mood. An elderly man asked, "Son, are you so happy, have you just finished playing the cello? "He didn't stop, "No, I was just going to play." This 7-year-old understood what many adults don't: music is a pleasant pleasure, not a job we have to do and endure.

Optimism is "a disposition that allows one to see the more favorable side of things and look forward to more favorable outcomes. Some children may be naturally optimistic, while others are the opposite. But psychologists have found that optimism can be cultivated, and even if a child is not born with optimism, it can be achieved through later efforts.

To develop optimistic qualities in children, parents must first have an optimistic way of thinking. The optimistic attitude of parents in dealing with their problems and family problems has an important demonstration effect on children, who gradually develop optimistic qualities through observation and imitation. When a child encounters unfavorable things and is pessimistic, the parent should lead the child to think and weigh the problem in many ways and make the child understand the logical errors in her thinking.

The famous educator Seligman pointed out that the correct way parents criticize their children significantly affects whether the child's character is optimistic or pessimistic later. Parents should criticize their children appropriately and should not exaggerate a few mistakes into permanent faults. Parents should be specific about their child's mistakes and the reasons for them so that the child understands that the mistakes he or she made can be changed and knows where to start.

Are you secretly disappointed because your child is not showing superhuman talent?

Are you ashamed because your child doesn't feel as beautiful as other children?

It is important to understand that children's evaluation of themselves is largely based on their parents' evaluation of them. Many children know that their parents love them, but few children believe that they are equal to their parents. The child believes that his parents could give their lives for him, but at the same time, he also believes that they do not take him seriously. Because the child's parents interrupted him and sternly told him to go away when he was talking to a guest, the child will have strong self-confidence only if he is convinced that his parents like him.

About self-confidence, Napoleon Hill said: "The power of confidence is amazing, believe in yourself, then, all difficulties will not be difficult. Because self-confidence is a positive psychological quality, the internal motivation to drive people upward, the person to succeed, and a necessary, important psychological quality.

With self-confidence, a lack of self-reliance does not work either. Imagine, in such a competitive era, the idea of "male superiority over female" still controls most people, as a woman, the independent ability is not, how to stand in society. Parents should be well aware of this, so why not hand over the golden key to their daughter by cultivating her self-confidence and self-reliance, so that she can benefit from it for the rest of her life?

Self-confidence is like a catalyst for human ability, mobilizing all human potential and pushing all parts to function at their best. And the high level of performance is based on constant repetition and consolidation as part of human nature so that the person can be raised to a new level. If a person's growth path is along such a positive upward march, one can imagine that its cumulative effect is very considerable.

We can see this extraordinary self-confidence in many great people. It is driven by this self-confidence that they dared to make high demands on themselves and saw the hope of success in their failures, encouraging themselves to keep working hard to achieve ultimate success. In a country where there are many talents, we can also find the catalytic effect of self-confidence in those great people and celebrities, and the glory of self-confidence is constantly radiating from the outstanding talents around us.

Optimism and self-confidence is the necessary attitude in life for charming women. The more outstanding women may encounter greater difficulties and more setbacks, if they do not have a positive attitude to face, they will eventually be defeated by difficulties rather than overcome them.

Optimism and self-confidence are the greatest charms women have, it is far more important than the beauty of the moon, to shape their good girl into an independent and successful woman, we must establish an optimistic and confident attitude.