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Open-minded mother and stingy mother, bring out the children

After growing up the pattern of high and low immediately appear

By Luo re LuoPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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Both home and school education promote this traditional culture, but there is no shortage of parents, mostly mothers, who misinterpret frugality and thrift.

For example, some people take "stingy" to be frugal, and under the influence of long-term subtle influence, children will also be seriously affected, reasonable family spending is necessary, and for children, an open mother and a stingy mother, their influence is completely different.

The "open mother" - never spends money softly, in the child is very generous

The most important thing is that you can get a good idea of what you're doing.

Xiaolan often buys educational toys for her children, and all of them are of good quality, which can develop the children's intelligence and can be played with for a long time.

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Xiaolan also often buys her children nice clothes. In the opinion of people, children grow up fast, so there is no need to buy so many clothes, just enough to wear, but Xiaolan thinks that clothes are facing, so wearing nice clothes will not be looked down upon and can improve the child's self-confidence.

Xiaolan will also pay attention to cultivating the child's reading habits, from the child is very young begin to buy him picture books, although others will say that the child can not read is a waste of money, Xiaolan is still happy to.

But such a "big spenders" mother, but the children raised, is the envy of individuals "other children" - son Mo Mo flexible mind, has a lot of He often participates in various activities at school and is a literary actor; his grades are not bad and he is almost an all-rounder in arts and science.

Although Xiaolan is said to spend a lot of money, especially on the children, Xiaolan does not spend money indiscriminately, and because she is willing to spend, she has raised an excellent son.

The "stingy mother" - excessive frugality in life, even for the children can also save as much as possible

The most important thing is that you can be a very frugal person, and even a little "stingy", in the eyes of others, she also loves to take advantage of a little, but Minmin's family conditions are very good, the family car and house are not lacking and savings.

Minmin is also very frugal with children, daughter rarely wears new clothes, from childhood, the clothes given by others wears size that does not fit, and even often have to wear boy's clothes.

When my daughter saw others have new clothes to wear, she was particularly envious but did not dare to ask her mother, every time she saw her daughter's eager eyes, Minmin always said: parents are not easy to earn money, clothes have to wear on the line, old clothes washed is the same.

Once the school organized a dance for girls, but need to buy a set of dance clothes, daughter very much want to go, so they asked her mother to buy her clothes, but Min Min refused, but also blamed the daughter does not know how to understand the parents, and finally, the daughter did not go to the dance, can only watch the classmates wearing beautiful dresses, glowing on stage.

This is also the reason why the daughter grew up with a "stingy" style even though she was not short of money to spend, just like her mother, and she could not help but take advantage of the small advantages.

The difference between an open-minded mother and a stingy mother is obvious, and the pattern will be obvious when they grow up.

The fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a lot of money from the internet.

1. A stingy mother cannot raise a confident child

Stingy ≠ thrifty, parents who are stingy will make children a psychological implication that they are not worthy.

After the child goes to school, he or she will see that other students have, but not himself or herself, and clearly understand that his or her parents will not buy for him or her, so the child's self-esteem will be seriously hurt, and inferiority complex will be born.

2, the stingy mother can not raise a broad-eyed child

The child's training is from childhood, and it is necessary to spend money and thought, reading books and travel are the best way to train children's eyes, but a stingy mother even decent clothes, will not prepare the child, and how will spend thought and money to buy children picture books, take children to travel?

The child's eyes are restricted from childhood, and later grow up only in their little world.

3, the stingy mother can not raise generous children

The child was influenced by his mother, is stingy with money, and loves to take advantage of small, then the child will think that this is the right thing to do, so he will imitate his mother, and proudly think that this is "frugal", if someone destroyed this virtue, he will be narrow-minded to blame others, a stingy and narrow-minded people, is not by peers Welcome.

Generosity is not spending money without restraint when it is necessary to spend generously, but when it is not necessary to carry forward the virtue of frugality, which is commonly known as spending money on the edge of the knife. So if moms buy to improve the quality of life of their children and develop their confidence, the money will be worth it!

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