Only after you become a mother, you understand whether your parents really love you

The patriarchal thinking of the older generation is still very serious.

In the eyes of many parents, their daughters will eventually be married off, so they will ignore their daughters' rights and interests when considering issues of interest. There was a question and answer on the Internet.

If you have two suites and a son and a daughter, will you give your daughter a suite?

The top is a father's answer, he said very straightforwardly and clearly: he will not give his daughter a suite, two suites he will only leave to his son.

I believe that the majority of parents have the same idea as this father, it, after all, the daughter than the son.

Parents have such a concept, that the invisible will also be brought into life, and the daughters can naturally feel it. When they are young, they may not understand, but when they grow up, they understand and experience things, and they will slowly perceive the difference in their parents' love in their hearts.

Ms. Lai said that she only understood whether her parents loved her after she became a mother herself.

The attitude of parents since childhood

Ms. Lai's family has two siblings, and Ms. Lai is the older sister, who has been taught by her parents since childhood to let her younger brother do more in everything, as he is still young. From the beginning, Ms. Lai helped her parents with household chores and helped them take care of her brother, who was only two years younger than Ms. Lai. When there were good food in the house, her parents would share it, but they would also give more to her brother and less to Ms. Lai, who was used to her parents' practice and did not feel there was a problem.

When I was young, my parents went on a trip and would take my brother with them, leaving Ms. Lai to be taken care of by my grandmother, because Ms. Lai had to go to school, but, my brother also had to go to school, although he was two grades younger than myself, my parents helped my brother take a leave of absence and then took him.

Of course, as a child, Ms. Lai did not think too much about not being able to go on a trip with her parents, and she just thought that she was not fit to go.

There were many other things in life where her parents treated Ms. Lai differently from her brother, but because she was young, Ms. Lai didn't feel the difference and believed that her parents loved her.

Ms. Lai believed that her parents must have loved her too, just in different ways and to different degrees, which Ms. Lai understood as she grew up.

Growing up, she had doubts

But the more she grew up, the more she realized that her parents treated her and her brother very differently.

From the time Ms. Lai was 20 years old, her mother told her straight out that she would never buy her clothes or anything from now on, and not only that, after Ms. Lai worked, she had to give most of her monthly salary to her mother.

Moreover, her mother was very strict with Ms. Lai. At the age of 24, Ms. Lai fell in love, and her mother was always beside her, telling Ms. Lai to pay attention to her behavior, not to discredit her brother, to take care of the family's reputation, and to understand what she could and could not do.

At that time, Ms. Lai thought her mother loved herself and was afraid she would suffer a loss, so she asked, but many years later, Ms. Lai came to realize that her mother's concern had always been her brother's face, the older generation's ideology.

Before she became a mother herself, Ms. Lai also had doubts about her parents' love for her, and Ms. Lai even felt that her parents might not really love her idea.

However, it was only doubtful and did not take root in Ms. Lai's heart.

Only after she became a mother did she understand

The real understanding that her parents did not love her came after she became a mother herself.

This time, the realization was particularly profound and took root in Ms. Lai's heart - her parents did not love her as much as they thought they did.

After becoming a mother, Ms. Lai realized more deeply the meaning of being a parent and how to love her children, probably because she had given herself to them.

Ms. Lai found out that her parent's love for her was really limited, so to speak, and that their love for Ms. Lai was only superficially raised and then asked for what they once gave her. Her parents grew up telling Ms. Lai to be filial to her parents, how to repay them when she grew up, etc. After Ms. Lai became an adult, her parents were more demanding, demanding fame, money, filial piety, etc.

After becoming a mother, Ms. Lai only gave her heart and soul to her children, never thinking that they would be rewarded in the future. Ms. Lai is wholeheartedly devoted to her child, even if she is a daughter. Until then, Ms. Lai understood that not all parents' love is the same.

Closing Words

Growing up with a daughter who has no home is a phrase I have heard more than once.

Deeply influenced by the concept of son preference, many parents have a more realistic and snobbish attitude towards their daughters.

It has been said online that to escape the control of their parents, many daughters grow up and choose to study far away and then marry far away, escaping far from their families of origin.

Why do so many daughters have such deep resentment towards their parents? Because their parents' every word and deed has long betrayed their hearts, and their parent's lack of love has pierced their daughters' hearts.

The reason why daughters flee as adults is because they see through the truth of the matter, just like Ms. Lai, after she became a mother herself, she realized that not all parents' love is the same.