It's About Our Children

When you bring a child or children into this world it’s the most beautiful thing and precious moments in life. As they get older not most parents stay with each other and that’s okay but what isn’t okay is that most parents out there go at it with each other. This isn’t okay because then the child/children get traumatized and which is the parent's fault because they are being selfish. They think about their feeling but not the child/children. Then you got one parent trying to provoke the other parent. What does the child/Children learn from this? See when you go to court the judges say what’s best for the child/children. When you do child support it’s the same thing. What most parents don’t understand is that you don’t need to be friends when it comes to co-parenting. You need to be on the same page when it comes to communication. You can hate each other and still co-parent. I know some people that just co-parent by communicating and they do it through an app. I don’t think most parents will understand because they sit there and judge each other or one is judging the other one and the other one is trying to remain calm. There isn’t going to be a reasonable situation because all the parents are doing is teaching the child/children to judge people, to not communicate better, and to think everything is supposed to be perfect.

Another thing is that these parents sit there not realizing it’s their fault for their actions.

You see when both parents aren’t on the same page it turns into a watermelon then the child/children don’t get to see that other parent due to the parent being mad.That’s the parent that has primary care over the child/children. Sadly, parents would go to that extent to even do something like that and what they don’t realize is that it’s definitely hurting the child/children. You see children aren’t objects to where you can keep them like toys away from someone. Most parents out there that are going through fighting for custody for their children 50% chance not a lot win because either the mother wins and father loses or vise versa. What we parents should understand that our children aren’t objects where you can tug on them fighting over them. They are human beings just like us and they are innocent into the fights with parents. Parents don’t realize it’s not about their feelings it’s about the child/children’s feelings. Things can be worked out for both parties on both ends. Sometimes you got a jealous ex that wants the child’s father back because they having a good life. Because they finally getting back on their feet the right way and sometimes they have to deal with an ex not being happy about that and just being very jealous about it and that teaches our children to learn hatred, jealousy, and bullying. You know we should all teach our children to be humble because in today’s society you got parents making so many mistakes and constantly doing it so it teaches the child/child to pick up habits of the parents.

You see when we bring our children to this world we bring them making promises that get broken because of the parents not compromising. They are at it with each other and it’s a never-ending story. If the child/children see this they blame themselves. They start leaning for a way out. How can we change this? Well, be the bigger person. Be the adult you are supposed to be and tell yourself, I should be calm for my child/children. I won’t let the other person provoke me and I will just communicate on and about the child even if you can’t stand being face to face with the person do it through text, a time and place to pick up the child/children. If the other person can’t seem to compromise then I’m sorry to say they will regret it later because all they are doing is hurting the child/children and then that child/children will start to learn to hate the parent that doesn’t allow them to see the other parent. Parents don’t realize things until the last min and that’s what’s heartbreaking. If you are going through this please think about your child or children ask them how they are feeling. Because the child/children got feelings too and they can express what they like and don’t like. Remember when you have children it’s not about you and your feelings no more it’s about the children’s feelings. Don’t repeat what you went through as a child and for sure don’t keep the child away from the other parent because whats going to happen is that the child will find out what happened and learn to hate you.

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