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I find women who have a habit of putting their partners down, putting them down, and seeming dominant

In fact, they are the real poor people in the couple's life, for three reasons

By 邱前程Published 2 years ago 3 min read
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1. She has been oppressed by her parents since she was a child.

In marriage, there is this type of woman who seems to be very strong and superior, who often criticizes her husband and says everything in the family. They look beautiful from the outside, but they're really pathetic. Because a woman can have such a strong character, most of the reason is the family of origin is unfortunate.

For example, her parents are very strong, often suppress her, deny her, criticize her in childhood, she never have a feeling of being loved and respected, when she is an adult, after marriage, how can she be able to love her partner? All the oppression and rejection you see and feel is just a complete reproduction of the way her parents treated her.

2. She is extremely insecure and insecure inside.

A person with extreme inner insecurity will usually behave in two extremes towards his partner. One is to please the other party in order to exchange for his partner's attention and love.

The other is to suppress and negate. By belittling your partner, you can narrow the gap between you and him, so as to improve your self-confidence and relieve the feeling of unworthiness in your heart. In the final analysis, it is still a manifestation of the lack of energy in your heart.

3. She's expressing her needs.

Inner lack of love of women, often will disguise themselves as a hedgehog, with the body to protect their fragile heart.

So when this kind of woman wants something from her partner, she will not be as straightforward as other women to tell her partner: I am a little tired, I need you to help me, you have to do the housework, you have to take care of the children, you have to turn in your work card, etc.

Instead, it refers to your partner in an accusatory, even belittling way about what you should be doing and how you should be doing it, but the truth is that many men don't get this level.

So when a woman is strong and always tries to suppress her partner and deny her partner, it is not her intention, but she only knows this way of communication, and this way of communication can make her fragile heart get enough sense of security.

I've interviewed a thousand divorced couples, and I've learned that when someone approaches you with an agenda, an ulterior motive, there's always a hidden interest. The reason why long-distance marriage is easy to be taken advantage of, is also the truth. What if you find your long-distance partner has cheated on you and you don't want a divorce? In fact, in many marriages, the third party is not the direct cause of marriage breakdown, but the result of the breakdown within the marriage.

Before he transferred his feelings to this person, there were some undetected problems in your relationship, such as obvious misplaced needs, which had been caused by long-term unsatisfied feelings. At this time, you had different places and weak connection. As long as the right person appeared, it would be easy to break his boundary.

We all feel that the ideal marriage is flawless; And the real marriage, often full of flaws, shortcomings, can not meet, trade-off.

Most men are linear thinking, value, as a result, he is outside, he knew transfer emotion will let him get what, lost what, he will have to do in this case, probably is because of your feelings with cracks, or say this affair to let him feel to give him a lot of happiness, a lot of satisfaction, let him willing to bear the cost of marriage.

In a long-distance marriage, betrayal is more likely. Because, the distance is easy to let each other not to feel each other's love. The feeling of being loved comes from the comfort he gives you when you are unhappy and the hug he gives you when you are down. You will talk to him and tell him your heart, and you will feel that he loves you.

She also wanted to have a relaxed and warm family atmosphere, but her bad childhood made her incapable of managing a marriage. If you are such a woman, I suggest that from now on, you should consciously fill your own inner energy, only when you know how to love yourself, confidence, you will have the power to love others.

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