I have found that there are three stages of marriage
1. You feel like you're losing your relationship. I don't know when it started to feel like he didn't love himself. In order to win his favor, you burned a table of his favorite dishes, he can not say a word you hard; To get his attention, you get new clothes and a new haircut, and he acts like he doesn't see anything...
Cherish the present people, treat the people who endure hardships together, and don't let details defeat love!
Cherish the present people, treat the people who endure hardships together, and don't let details defeat love! Many people don't know what love is until they lose it.
How does he feel about me?
It started in 2015. He was an athlete. For convenience, he borrowed from my school and was assigned to my class. Less than a week, he expressed his heart to me, I this person ah ~, at that time by family reasons, the heart is very sick Jiao, extreme work. I have a crush on him, but I can't accept it.
When I first saw you, you were radiant
Think back to the first time I saw you, you were radiant with light, somehow suddenly dimmed, the light disappeared, the love gradually dissipated. After ten years of marriage, I found that from love to love, there is a cognitive solidification: only one person in the repair of the relationship, not worth continuing.
I find women who have a habit of putting their partners down, putting them down, and seeming dominant
1. She has been oppressed by her parents since she was a child. In marriage, there is this type of woman who seems to be very strong and superior, who often criticizes her husband and says everything in the family. They look beautiful from the outside, but they're really pathetic. Because a woman can have such a strong character, most of the reason is the family of origin is unfortunate.
I'm a boy, and I've never been in this situation, but there are two things.
I'm a boy, and I've never been in this situation, but there are two things. First of all, I will put myself in the shoes of some things, so when I saw your post, I also wanted to come for a long time. And also try to see things from a girl's point of view. (Why don't you really smile) Number two. I have a good friend of the opposite sex. He also experienced this kind of thing. When we were in senior one, there was a boy who had some conflicts with her and quarreled with her. That day on the night of self-study, self-study in the middle of the class has 10 minutes to rest time, and then the boy, he was about to apologize in a stairwell, the gift has been bought. However, my original intention to apologize was not successful. After that, the girl felt very afraid because of some things, and from then on, the two of them changed from good friends to almost strangers. Afterward I asked the boy, that boy's character is to express, particularly poor straight men sometimes true, and then I asked him, then he said, he didn't want to in front the classmate to get this thing, he also sounded very embarrassed, and he just about in the corridor ready to apologize, and said the results self-defeating, but he didn't want to know something. And then they became strangers. To tell you the truth, I felt really stupid about my friend afterwards. After it happened, I spent half an hour trying to talk to that girl, and I tried to talk to her for a while after that, um... Girls are nice and cheerful now. But I know in my own mind that it must have left a mark on him, but what I can help him with is that I have enlightened him and made him feel a little better. It didn't hurt my friend that much. In fact, the guy in your situation has good intentions, but the methods are too extreme, and he doesn't really consider your feelings. Guys get better from the beginning. To the end to hit you. In fact, this matter, I say a bad word, the first boy's quality to the back of the actually has become bad, I think you should refuse to refuse, the use of strong means to use strong means, do not leave him affection. Second, it is because this boy, if he still really like you, then he will not move you, he will not use that special extreme way, and many times in this extreme way to find you, and also climb over the wall this let people feel very afraid of things. This kind of love is not love, this kind of feeling is not feeling, this kind of feeling has been broken, this kind of boy he now first his thought is not correct, he now uses an extreme way to save you. The guy may have good intentions, he wants to get you back, and he doesn't want to end the relationship that has been maintained for a long time, but the guy doesn't really think about empathy and uses the way too extreme. If he really knew in his heart that it would make you feel scared, anxious, and sad, if he really liked you, if he really liked you deep down, then he wouldn't do it. If he is totally considerate of you, then he will not use such extreme ways to get you back over and over again. In fact, sometimes we are hurt by feelings, sometimes really will stay up all night. Sometimes it's nice to be cold. A quick solution is always better than a vague one. He was afraid of killing decision met the lingering affection, met the change of mind this world, the bitter is spoony. I hope my answer can give you some help and hope to be more and more sunny and cheerful in the days to come. Come on, get out early
Su Yi broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years. Su Yi called it quits.
Su Yi broke up with her boyfriend of 4 years. Su Yi called it quits. Bestie around all feel too suddenly, advised her to calm down, after all, accompanied for many years. Su Yi: "You don't understand, facing the cold phone screen, my heart like falling into the ice."
Six years ago, I was working in a company
Let me tell you a story. Six years ago, when I was working in a company, I had a close colleague, a woman in her 30s from Shanghai. Please call her Ms. Li. Ms. Li is very kind to me. Sometimes when I work late, she takes me out to eat. We got to know each other, and she used to tell me about her husband. Ms. Li's husband, who is nearly 20 years older than her, should be called Mr. Zheng. Before that, Mr. Zheng had an ex-wife. Well, Ms. Li was the mistress in charge, and it took nearly 10 years. According to her, when she was a little girl, she started dating the married Mr. Zheng. After getting married with Mr. Zheng, she could not stand Mr. Zheng and his ex-wife, so she regarded his ex-wife as an enemy, and from time to time ran to his ex-wife's micro blog to scold her, was blocked on the change of the trumpet-scold, no play no. Swearing at her ex-wife, arguing with her husband, teasing me was a large part of her daily life, and the daily battle made her look radiant. Mr. Zheng made A small fortune in foreign trade in his early days, but gradually declined in recent years. Perhaps working too hard in his career, Mr. Zheng developed diabetes and high blood pressure in old age, along with sexual dysfunction. For the latter, Mr. Zheng tried many methods, including taking Viagra, but the drugs had side effects that his heart couldn't handle. So, Mr. Li completely gave up treatment, began to Buddhist health. In his own words, the older he gets, the more he finds that many things are beyond his control. It is better to just leave them alone and let them go. In this way, he always keeps himself in a state of low pressure. After Mr. Zheng fell ill, his ex-wife cut off contact with Mr. Zheng, and Ms. Li quieted down for a while. Her ex-wife disappeared from her life, and her enemy became Mr. Zheng. Ms. Li found it impossible to live with her husband as a bestie. She wanted Mr. Zheng to treat her, but Mr. Zheng was not interested. Ms. Li began to have an affair with another man. Once, with lover phone sex, was caught in the act. Mr. Zheng did not say anything, this indifference, let Ms. Li's mood fell to the bottom. The more indifferent Mr. Zheng was, the more disappointed she was. She wished Mr. Zheng would stop her or throw a tantrum. Mr. Zheng just said, as long as you're happy. Ms. Li was very disappointed, and gradually, her disappointment turned into resentment. She kept blocking Mr. Li, adding him back from the blacklist, arguing for a divorce, and refused to enter the Civil affairs Bureau. Later, Ms. Li invited her lover to her home directly, and deliberately let Mr. Li walk in on her and Mr. Li's room. She has been making all kinds of accidents, trying to provoke Mr. Zheng, but all in vain. She tried desperately to get her husband's attention and just wanted to prove that she was loved. Her enemy was, in fact, an imaginary enemy. In this kind of life, Ms. Li seems to live younger and younger. For a long time she didn't tease me, I thought she was modified. Until I stumbled across her moments and found that she had shared several posts about depression and suicide. I quickly called her, the voice on the other end of the line was very sad. She told me that Mr. Zheng had passed away, with complications of acute kidney failure, and was going fast. She didn't want to live. There was nothing to live for. I tried to visit her, but I was turned down. She said she wasn't in the mood, wasn't interested in living, and wanted to go with her husband. Ex-wife, no longer in touch, Mr. Zheng also passed away, there is no object for her anger. All the enemies she had ever had in life were gone, along with her motivation to live. From birth, through adolescence, through adulthood and into old age, human beings spend their entire lives fighting their enemies. Enemies are sometimes real people -- teachers, parents, children, partners. Sometimes it's a virtual thing, like a test, a job, a career, an ideal, an illness. When you're young, you do everything you can to grow up, just to escape the control of your parents and teachers. As an adult, you try to make money and fire your boss. You've had enough of your partner and want to have an affair. Finally one day, the boss was fired by you; Your partner doesn't care where you spend the night; Your children, too, are tired of talking back to you; Your ideal, also dispensable. Then you find that life is boring! When you have no enemies, it means you have lost contact with the world, and it is time to say goodbye to the world. So, the most important thing in life is to make enemies for yourself. In the struggle with the enemy, we can truly understand their own existence, and give some meaning to life. Otherwise, this ethereal life, how difficult ah!