How to predict the risk of domestic violence?

Seeing this problem, I would like to say that it is entirely possible that domestic violence has already happened before marriage. Marriage is not the "trigger" factor for domestic violence, which may be lurking in the relationship from the very beginning. It's just that before marriage, the two people are not so tightly tied to each other and have some personal space, so the characteristics of domestic violence may not be so obvious. Many of the little everyday things that might be called "domestic violence" may go unnoticed by love-struck survivors.

Moreover, it must be noted that domestic violence is never "discriminatory". Anyone, man, woman, rich, without money, straight, gay, married, unmarried... Are at risk of domestic violence. The goal, and only goal, of domestic violence and abusers is to gain and maintain complete control over the survivor. The abuser will not be fair. He/she will break the survivor down with fear, guilt, shame and threats, and then hold the survivor firmly in his/her hands.

Many survivors OF domestic violence THAT I have worked with can think of at least three or four early episodes of domestic violence when they think about the details of their premarital interactions after they escaped from home violence, but they were so immersed in love that they hastily ignored any concerns they might have. So, my personal advice on the best way to recognize the signs of domestic violence is to listen to what's on your mind. There's a reason why you might be wondering, so don't jump to conclusions or ignore them. Slow down your relationship a bit, take a look back, and you may be able to spot some evidence of domestic violence.

The most obvious sign of domestic violence is that you are afraid of your partner. If you're constantly feeling like you're walking on eggshells around your partner, constantly monitoring their mood for fear of saying or doing the wrong thing and upsetting them. Or the feeling that your daily life is being manipulated and manipulated by your partner, and that you are becoming inferior, helpless and hopeless...

I copied the following topic from Helpguide.org. The more "yes" you answer to these questions, the more likely you are to be in an abusive relationship. (Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships | http:// www.helpguide.org/articles/Abuse, domestic violence - and - Abuse. HTM)

Your inner thoughts and feelings:

Are you:

 Most of the time you dread your partner?

 Avoid certain topics for fear of upsetting your partner?

 Do you think you deserve to be hurt or ignored because of your flaws or your past?

 Always feel like you're the crazy one in the relationship?

 Feeling numb or helpless?

Your partner's disparaging behavior:

TA is not:

 Insult you or yell at you?

 Criticize or put you down?

 Are you embarrassed to let your family and friends see their abusive behavior?

 Blame you for the abuse?

 Use you as my personal property or as a sexual tool, not as a person?

Your partner's violent or threatening behavior:

TA is not:

 Have a bad temper and I don't know when it will come.

 Hurt you and threaten them will hurt you, or will they kill you?

 Does bullying hurt people around you (family, friends)?

 Threatening your partner will kill themselves if you leave?

 Forcing you to have sex?

 Destroying your personal effects?

Your partner's controlling behavior:

TA is not:

 Be jealous or possessive?

 Control where you go or what you do?

 Don't let you see your friends or family?

 Reduce your control over money, the phone and transportation?

 Frequent attendance checks?

No one should live in fear of the one they love. Domestic violence is never the victim's fault. Find signs, leave in time, in order to stop the loss, otherwise, it is another endless vicious circle.