Don't ignore the child's mind, how does depression arise?

Major depression is a process of losing interest in all things in terms of everything. In this process, depressed people also become less and less active, and not trying to get something for nothing, maybe they don't even want to pick up the money when they see it until finally, they will have the idea of living lightly. So, depression is a very scary disease.

If depression had a good treatment plan, I'm afraid there wouldn't be so many patients. What exactly is the author saying? I mean: if we could find the root cause of the onset of depression and then remove this root cause, maybe there would not be so much depression.

I dare not say that depressed people have nothing to do with congenital factors, but I think depressed people have a great deal to do with acquired factors. Why?

Cat, if we keep it inside a closed cage for a long time, the premise is to keep it from starving to death. In the beginning, I think the cat will keep purring and finding its way out, but after numerous failures, the cat will no longer purr or look for a way out, and later, even if you open the door, the cat will be indifferent.

Why is there such a difference between this cat's before and after? Is the cat sick? Yes, maybe the cat is suffering from depression, and then it loses interest in everything, so it will be indifferent. This also seems to fulfill the "frog effect": it is said that when a frog is put into water with high temperature, it will suddenly pop out, and when the frog is put into cold water and slowly heated up, the frog will die in the boiling water later.

It is easy to see that due to the change of environment, the character of both the cat and the frog changed until finally, they both lost their interest and instinct. What exactly am I going to say? What I am saying is that if a person is not allowed to lose his or her interests and instincts, perhaps that person will not suffer from depression.

Don't ignore the child's mind, how does depression arise? That is the topic that this article will strip away. It is obvious: as a parent, one should not shut down all the child's thoughts as well, like shutting down that cat, in which case the child may tend towards depression.

It is important to understand that a child's thoughts are not always wrong, and even as a parent, all thoughts are not always right. So as long as the child's thoughts do not break the law, parents should not refute them at all, even if the child's thoughts are indeed wrong, they should guide their children from another side and then through a lot of valid data and evidence.

If the parents are opposed to or refute whatever the child says, then they are undoubtedly putting the child's mind into a cage as well. In such a case, the child will be like the cat, it would be strange not to be depressed!

Perhaps some parents will say: My child is different from the cat, after all, my child is strong. I can only say: this is self-deception, strong people are after all a minority of a minority, because after all, not everyone is God, what if your child is not a minority of this minority? Otherwise, you also put yourself in a cage for three or five years, and see what kind of effect it will have.

Some parents will contradict their children in everything, which is to compete with your child? The author does not say that this will easily make their children suffer from depression, there is another point is that it will seriously affect your child's interpersonal relationships, why? This is also the author to say a key element.

There is a "glass window effect", I do not know if friends have heard of it, or said a piece of glass is intact, no one will go to smash it, but with a broken little glass, there will be many people to smash it worse and worse.

Knowing the "window effect," you dare to refute your child's thinking. If you keep on refuting your child, it is like a piece of broken glass, and eventually, more and more people will refute your child. Doesn't this seriously affect your child's interpersonal relationships? This is also the gas pedal that leads to depression in children.

Finally: Don't ignore your child's thing, no child is willing to do bad things, so don't inexplicably go back on your child, even if your child is wrong, you should deal with it properly.