Divorcing During the Holidays

There is never a good time to divorce.The divorce process can be complex, contentious and stressful for many couples. While January is deemed “divorce month”, many couples choose to divorce prior to the holidays. Adding the divorce experience to the holiday season can add an additional layer of stress and worry.

Navigating the divorce process can be hard during the holidays as you and your partner are separating during a time that typically brings people together. This said, there are tips to help you survive the holidays during a divorce.

Make New Traditions

During a divorce, traditions can change, and this is no different during the holidays. If you have kids, consider trying something new with them this year. Cooking a special meal, taking a trip, volunteering, watching a particular movie or creating another tradition can make something new for you (and your family) to look forward to in the upcoming years.

If you don’t have children, challenging yourself to do something different can help you establish autonomy during this transitional period.

Lean on Those For Helping You

It is okay to ask for help and guidance during this time. If you are struggling, lean on family members, friends and a trusted divorce attorney to handle the paperwork and complexities during this time. “Take some time to spend time with the people you care about most. Meet up with friends for cocktails and dinner. Spend time with family members you don’t get to see a lot,” note Los Angeles divorce attorneys from Fernandez & Karney, “No matter what you do, celebrate the love that you have in your life.”

Exercise

Exercise is one of the best treatments for processing negative emotions like depression, anxiety, and grief. Regular exercise releases feel-good endorphins and can help take your mind off worries and stressors related to your divorce. It can also help you gain confidence, cope in a healthy way, and increase social interaction.

Take that class, try that trendy workout, or simply go for a walk outside; your body and mind will thank you.

Give Back

The holiday season is often synonymous with giving. Helping others or your community can help inspire feelings of gratitude and compassion. In fact, a 2020 study conducted in the United Kingdom found that people who volunteered reported they were more satisfied with their lives and rated their overall health as better.

There are a variety of ways to give back to the community or environment. Volunteering your time for a beach clean up or soup kitchen can be a great use of your energy, or donating to a cause you are passionate about can also help stimulate positive feelings during this time. Give in whatever way feels good to you.

Stepping Away from Social Media

Spending time on social media can be tempting: you may want to keep tabs on your ex and see what your family and friends are up to. During this difficult time, social media may not be what you need right now.

Avoid the negative impact of social media by choosing to refrain from using it. Consider using the time without it to focus on your own healing journey and practicing self-care. Studies show a social media hiatus can be beneficial in a myriad of ways: better sleep, strengthening relationships, increased feelings of relaxation, decreased feelings of rejection or isolation, and more free time.

Navigating Holiday Heartbreak

In many situations, there is no “right” time to file for divorce. Choosing to divorce during the holiday season can make this time of the year challenging for you and your family. By following these five tips, you can help navigate this transitional period in a healthy, happy and productive way.