Director Chen Chong said:

Admittedly, when a woman is young, she can look beautiful with the advantage of being young.

When a woman reaches middle age, she can live a beautiful life only by her real ability.

The following five characteristics of middle-aged women's happiness, if you have more than 3, it means that you are doing well.

Economic independence illuminates oneself

Yishu said:

A woman's real 'noble spirit' comes from her sense of security in the face of life. "

And the sense of security of middle-aged women, not from others, can only come from themselves.

As Carnegie wrote in the book "the pattern of Women determines the ending":

"financially independent women, with their own ability to create happiness, do not need to please and rely on men.

Marriage is just the icing on the cake for them. "

Financial independence is a woman's greatest strength and sense of security in marriage.

Because they don't have to live with each other, they don't have to look at other people's faces and swallow their anger.

Only by maintaining economic independence can we have the courage to pursue freedom and happiness, be our own light and illuminate our future.

Be mentally independent and please yourself.

However, why are there too many middle-aged women, even if they earn a lot of money, they are obviously very good, but still do not have a good life?

Because her spirit is still dependent on others, always take others as the center, have no independent opinions.

Spiritually independent, they can not see their own value, sacrificing their right to real happiness in vain.

Jia Baoyu in A Dream of Red Mansions said:

"when a girl is unmarried, she is a priceless treasure. When she gets married, she somehow becomes a lot of bad things. Although she is a bead, it has no brilliance and precious color. It is a dead pearl."

Because women care too much about other people's feelings, they always think of others in life, and always ignore themselves when they encounter things.

But those who really love you will not like the way you pretend to be humble to please.

Mr. Yang Jiang once said:

"We were so looking forward to outside recognition that we finally knew that the world was our own and had nothing to do with others."

Middle-aged women should first become their own masters and live their true appearance, followed by the mother of their children and the wife of their husbands.

If you have spiritual independence, you will no longer worry about gain and loss because you are afraid of losing or relying on.

You don't have to be attached to anyone, and you won't be disturbed by anyone, please yourself, and fulfill yourself.

Don't be greedy for pleasure, invest in yourself.

In the weakness of Human Nature, it is said that human nature is greedy for comfort and likes to enjoy.

When a woman reaches middle age, no matter what the family condition is, don't give up investing in yourself and don't stop growing up.

The purpose of study and work is not only to make money, but also to become a better self.

For women who are not greedy for pleasure, their charm will grow with time, and you will be as good as you are self-disciplined.

You know, no matter how luxurious the copilot, it is better to hold the steering wheel.

True happiness is the ability to choose the happiness you want.

Don't be confined to the stable life in front of you, take a fluke and have fun. Since the boat of life belongs to you, don't give up your ability to paddle.

Broaden your horizons, create your own circle of friends, and the five friends you are most familiar with are the portrayal of your future life.

As the ancients said, "Life stands on its own, and happiness is sought by itself."

It's never too late to get into the habit of investing in yourself.

But they all imperceptibly nourish you, and you will eventually meet your sparkling self.

Be open-minded and warm yourself

When people reach middle age, whether it is physical, work or emotional life, they are full of midlife crises everywhere.

And those happy middle-aged women, the reason why the days can be quiet, can not be separated from their open-minded mind, heart as broad as the sea.

You know, all diseases are born of qi, and one's health is the first to nourish the heart.

Many common diseases of middle-aged women are due to emotional frustration, depression in the heart, and finally reflected in the body.

Having a bad temper and being emotionally unstable are all punishing yourself for other people's mistakes.

A woman who often complains, her face is full of grievances, and there is always lingering frustration in her life.

An open-minded woman, her tolerance and understanding, will make her face glowing, life is naturally full of vitality.

Freud once said:

"A person's life is a process of reconciliation.

Reconcile with yourself, with others, with the world. "

In the adult world, there has never been the word "easy". When things go wrong, they don't feel sorry for themselves and don't vent their anger on others.

Learn to smile, use a broad-minded mind, change what can be changed, look away from the unchangeable, and make life calm and warm.

Know how to let go, let go of yourself

Hellinger, the master of psychology, said:

"Happy families have one thing in common: there is no one in the family who is very controlling."

When a woman reaches middle age, if she wants to take care of everything and has a strong desire for control, she will be out of luck with happiness and may even destroy a family.

It is very difficult for a woman with an unhappy family to have happiness herself.

Middle-aged women learn to let go, no longer habitually dictate to their children, and no longer expect too much from their loved ones.

As mothers, we have to understand:

The so-called maternal love, in fact, is a decent to put down.

If you "go after the child", it is undoubtedly digging a hole for the child.

Only by letting go at the right time can we let our children gallop freely in their lives and let us find our own happiness.

As lovers, we have to understand:

High expectations of a loved one will intangibly become a kind of control, not only suffering each other, but also hurting yourself.

Put down excessive expectations, jump out of the unrealistic fantasy, in order to find the small luck given by the other party in life.

After middle age, may you learn to let go, remain independent, generous and open-minded, stand on tiptoe, and bravely grasp your own happiness.