Children's lack of self-confidence, the root cause in the parents, do not let children lose themselves

Make your child confident

When children are reluctant to try new games, perform in public, or sleep alone, adults often label them as "timid". In the long run, emotions tend to get out of control, dependence, nesting, often feeling desperate to help, self-imposed, retreat and escape, etc.

A child's lack of self-confidence can be very harmful to a child and can easily lead to low self-esteem and character defects. Low evaluation of their abilities and qualities, lack of correct understanding. In daily life, this is reflected in timidity and cowardice, lack of courage, fear, following the voice, having no opinion, thinking that things are not good for them, and easily falling into a self-condemnation of the mire can not extricate themselves. Low self-esteem is very bad for children's mental health development, over time, the child will lose courage and confidence, but also more physical or psychological abnormalities.

To prevent children from becoming such people, we as parents should build the baby's self-confidence from an early age.

What parents should do

First of all, parents should slow down, a little slower than the child.

For example, where do we go to play? After the child decides on their own, parents then say their opinion and give the child time to think, and to learn to wait, when we are waiting in the process, is time for the child to make decisions independently. Now a lot of children, he has dependence, and lack independence, and self-confidence, many children will ask their mothers, and adults do not believe that their children will have the right decision.

Because in the course of a long life, parents are too much in charge, and too much intervention, so the child's self-confidence is put down in the package, and can not pick up.

So we have to build confidence in children from 0 to 6 years old, this confidence is not established by parents, as long as you do not play havoc with it, he will be very confident because the infant is born in the confidence, he can do anything, originally has enough, white, flawless, all harm, so the essence is there.

Confidence comes from letting the infant know that he or she is originally sufficient as he or she is, rather than parents labeling me, not that I do something I can be confident, but I am originally confident, originally have the resources and abilities in all areas, with a variety of possibilities.

How do raise children from 0 to 6 years old to make decisions on their own

You can say this to your child: you are originally like this, you see you originally will, just now I almost misunderstood you will not, you see you originally can do, you have an idea that you can not do, when we present the child's original appearance, the child's confidence is from the heart, from the roots of a confident child.

Parents should use a calm and democratic tone of voice to communicate with their children when doing so, not use commanding, domineering, authoritative language to communicate with their children.

Parents should be weak and empty, parents should do the weak and empty, parents in weak and empty when the child is strong and full of confidence, can maintain the baby's original look down, so confidence is not cultivated, but maintained.

How to maintain the confidence of 0 to 3 years old, there is only one thing, that is, parents do not set up obstacles for him, do not hit him, do not put a lot of labels, do not think to do is sincere, do not live in I think, so that the child's original confident nature can be preserved.

Kid in charge

Let the child learn to try, for example, what to eat today, by the child's say, what to wear today by the child's say, what to play today by the child's say, today to do something by the child's say, let the child be in charge, let the child for the family advice, to be in charge, to be the master, then the future of such children are very strong independence, can start a business, self-survival is very strong people, in this process, The parents in this process should pay attention to the child to be measured, to give the child the opportunity to imitate, give the child time, only action, no reason.