Can Anyone Believe That In Order To Be Loved, They Must Hide Their True self?

When anyone goes for a drive, they have the freedom to go anywhere they want. So, if they wanted to turn left, they could, and if they wanted to turn right, they could.

Simply put, they would be able to go wherever they pleased and adapt if they were unable to travel along a particular road. They would feel liberated just by being in this car.

Returning to the Self

Similarly, the perfect situation is for someone to feel at ease sufficiently in their own skin to be able to openly express themselves. This implies that they will have a strong bond with their true selves and will allow this aspect of themselves to guide their actions.

They can feel a sense of inner liberation by acting in this manner. They won't feel compelled to appease others or do what they want; instead, they'll feel compelled to live a life that is consistent with who they are.

A Decision

This will prevent them from acting, in the same manner, all of the time and from denying those aspects of their personalities. This isn't to suggest they won't recognize the value of playing a part on some occasions, such as at work.

Nonetheless, they will be linked to all of their emotions and will be able to use the knowledge they have. As a result, they will go with the flow at times and assert themselves at other times.

An Extremely Distinctive Experience

Someone who lives in this manner would not be able to openly express themselves or feel free. In some ways, it'll be as if they're wearing a straight jacket that isn't noticeable.

Given this, it is normal for someone who has lived their life in this way to still play a role or a few roles. However, since they are fully absorbed in this position, they will be oblivious to what is going on.

A Complete Person

One will then play various roles during the day, but they will not be overly identified with their roles. This will make it easier for them to deal with whatever life throws at them.

If they felt compelled to always play a certain role, they'd be like someone who tries to solve any problem with a screwdriver or even a hammer. Of course, a role will work at times (just as a screwdriver or hammer will), but it will also fail at times.

A Stage of Development

Even if they don't make a living as actors, their lives will be a performance. Most certainly, it would be a role they have played for the majority of their lives, which is why they are oblivious to the fact that this is the case.

This may indicate that they are usually laid-back and give the impression that nothing worries them. Furthermore, they could not have progressed too far in life.

The Illusion of Self

They would be mainly influenced by what is happening in their body if they were in tune with their true selves since this is where their true nature can be found. Instead, they are more likely to live on the surface of themselves, with the primary goal of pleasing others.

Living in this manner will allow them to gain some acceptance, but it will not allow them to truly feel alive. As a result, they could feel irritated, powerless, and depressed on a regular basis.

Breaking Through

And if they reach a stage that they've had enough, it doesn't mean they'll be willing to abandon their activities and share their true selves. It's possible that just thinking about it makes them feel uneasy.

Freely voicing oneself may be interpreted as a sign of rejection and unlovability. This indicates that something isn't quite right, because being true to themselves should be what feels right to them, and they should be loved for it.

Taking it a Step Further

However, it would be inaccurate to suggest that they were only cherished when they behaved in a certain way. This isn't love; if they were genuinely loved, they would have been embraced for who they are and allowed to express themselves.

As a result, though acting in accordance with their caregiver's wishes may have helped them escape rejection, they would have still been rejected. The message they got was that there was something fundamentally wrong with who they are and that they needed to be someone else in order to be accepted and therefore survive.

Recognize

The adult position they play would hold them back, but it would have given them the ability to manage their early environment. They'll need to feel that they can express themselves and still live and be cherished in order to move forward.

If you can relate to this challenge and are willing to make a change in your life, you can need to seek outside help. This can be done with the help of a psychiatrist or healer, or by proper therapy for mental wellbeing and peace.

Return to the Past

This may mean that they were only "loved" in their early years if they behaved the way their caregivers wanted them to behave. They couldn't be in tune with their true selves to express this part of themselves, so they had to lose touch with those aspects of themselves.

They would have had to play along in order to survive and avoid being rejected by them. As a result, they became estranged from their true selves and formed a false self.