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UNDERSTANDING PARENTAL CONCERNS ABOUT MARRIAGE

By Annie Amalaha Published 20 days ago 3 min read
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Parents are deeply invested in the future of their children, especially when it comes to significant life decisions like marriage.
The phrase "you should marry before it's too late" can feel like a heavy weight, when it's repeated by our parents. It's like a broken record playing the same tune over and over again. But behind those words, there's often a whole lot of emotions and concerns that our parents carry.
Imagine your parents sitting in the audience of life, watching you navigate the stage. They've been there since your very first performance cheering you on through every high note and comforting you through every stumble. Now as you approach one of life's biggest decisions which is marriage they can't help but feel invested in the outcome to make sure that you follow the right path.

For most parents marriage isn't just about finding a life partner; it's about seeing their child happy and secure. They've seen the joy that a loving relationship can bring and they want nothing more than to see you experience that same happiness. It's like they're holding a light trying to illuminate the path they believe will lead you to fulfillment. Also, know that they might also be acting this way due to the fear of what might happen if you don't seize the opportunity for marriage. It's not that they doubt your ability to find love or build a life on your terms. It's the worry that time is slipping away like grains of sand through an hourglass. They've heard the whispers of societal expectations and the ticking of the biological clock and they don't want you to feel left behind or regretful.
Their concern isn't just about societal norms or cultural traditions alone it's also deeply personal. They've watched you grow from a child with dreams into an adult with choices and they want to see those choices lead to a future filled with love and companionship. They may even be projecting their hopes and dreams onto you hoping that your journey will reflect their own love story. before it's too late," it's because they care about you and want to see you happy and accepted and also that they might be influenced by what they think is expected of you and their own experiences. Even though their comments might feel like a lot, it's important to know they come from a good place. Talking openly with them about what you want and when you want it can help you both understand each other better. Remember, you get to decide what's right for you when it comes to marriage, based on what makes you happy and what works best for you.

Parental perspectives on marriage are oftentimes shaped by their own experiences, beliefs, and values. Parents who have had positive experiences in their marriages may naturally wish the same for their children, viewing marriage as a source of joy, support, and personal growth. On the other parents who have experienced marital difficulties or divorce may be more inclined to caution their children about the potential risks and challenges of marriage, while still wanting what's best for them.

It's important to remember that your parents' intentions are likely coming from a place of love and concern even if their words feel pressuring or intrusive. They may not realize how their comments are affecting you so it could be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with them about how you feel. Let them know your thoughts on marriage and your own timeline for making such a big decision. By communicating openly you can work together to find common ground and ensure that your feelings and desires are respected.

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