After parents yell at their kids, the kids forget in a flash?

I saw a video on the internet before.

After a little girl made a mistake and was criticized, she recorded a video of her review: facing her angry mother, she cried while saying, "Mom, I've loved you longer than you've loved me. You've loved me since you were in your twenties, but I've loved you since I was born. You can only love me for fifty or sixty years, but I can love you for the rest of my life."

Plain and sincere words that make your nose tingle!

Many parents have had similar feelings: even though they leave the worst side to their children, the children never seem to hold a grudge. It seems that no matter how angry you are, turn around and your child will still smile at you cheekily or hug you tightly ......

A lot of parents take their children's lack of grudge as "heartlessness" and think that children are turning around and forgetting.

The first one to speak up after being criticized and scolded by parents is usually always the child, and the one who reaches out for a hug is always the child, so why is the child always the first to bow down and compromise?

The reason why children do not hold a grudge does not mean that they will not be hurt, bowing down and compromising does not mean that it is the child's fault, children do not hold a grudge is far sourer than you think center.

1, children's love for their parents is far more than we think

We often say that parents love for their children is the most selfless and unconditional in the world. But is it so?

Remember what Van den once said, "The truth is that the reason children can make up with you is not how effective your educational methods are, but because children love us far more than we love them."

The world of children is very pure, children's attachment to their parents is something pure and natural. What they desire is only the love of their parents, and for this reason, they can forgive their parents for all their bad feelings, even if they are hurt.

Because in the child's young heart, parents are his world.

2. Children are afraid of losing their mom and dad

Many mothers of two children in the process of educating their children are not the following similar experience.

As a mother of two Xiaoping, in the time of tutoring homework to the eldest baby, holding a fire, this time the second baby came running, had to pester her to tell stories, a day of work, tutoring the eldest baby's dissatisfaction, husband's lack of power ...... These pressures have made her heart fire outbreak to the extreme, she turned her head to the second baby with a wild roar and gave the first two slaps. The two children were scared and cried ...... The second baby is crying while reaching out to his mother for a hug ......

Seeing the two children's appearance, Naomi's heart was very remorseful, regretting that they should not take the child to take the anger, looking at the second baby reaching out for a hug, she herself also cried!

This kind of situation, in daily life we often encounter.

It is written in "The Parent Who Doesn't Lose Control" that.

"An overworked mother will become emotionally detached from her child. Her self-control will grow weaker, and she will protest against her child's demands, seeing him as a 'tyrant' and resenting him for it. Such feelings are sometimes so strong that they can temporarily erase her motherly love."

Why does she immediately reach out to her mother and father for a hug when she has just been scolded by them, her tears are still fresh, and her grievances are still inside her?

Is it because children don't hold grudges?

In fact, after being scolded by mom and dad, it's not that children don't hold grudges, their hearts are too big, but in the face of the hideous you, the child's heart is full of fear, but in his heart, mom and dad is the one who loves him the most and can bring him a sense of security, so usually the child's first reaction is to make sure to grab mom and dad and return to mom and dad's arms to confirm that mom and dad still love him.

To sum up.

Whenever a child is scolded by his or her parents, whether the reason is his or her naughtiness or the parents' lack of understanding, the child can dilute and dissolve it because of love.

We are just ordinary parents, who inevitably make mistakes; but also because we are parents, with love for our children, have the responsibility and obligation to grow, work hard, and do better.