6 Reasons Divorce is Harder on men than women

1- men skip the grieving process divorce is one of the most stressful things that can happen in life and only more stressful than the death of a close friend or family member the person you are losing in the case of a marriage dissolution has been your partner and in your life for a long time and grief is a natural feeling when men

skip the grieving period they feel at a loss as their plans are derailed goals and dreams are changed and the life plan will differ substantially women take time to grieve which is a healthy emotion and much needed to move on women will also seek professional

help or help from family members when they divorce to aid in their emotional state when men bottle up their emotions

it can result in massive depression and anxiety

2- men's health declines dramatically men experience more health problems in the process and after a divorce the most common health problems include weight fluctuations depression anxiety and insomnia men also have the added stress of handling all the finances and identity loss which makes them much more susceptible to both stroke and heart disease men are also more likely to self-medicate with alcohol and drugs than women are instead of seeking therapy as women do in stressful times when married wives usually try to

encourage healthy behaviors of their spouses this can make men more dependent on the women when men are depressed they talk to

their wives whereas when women are depressed they often choose to speak with a professional friend or family member men are just not accustomed to seeking out emotional support from others that

aren't their spouse .

3- men lose their identity when couples are together they identify as being a wife or husband and this is a large part of who you are the marriage status is one of the critical factors in self-identification and how others view you husbands when going through a divorce

see themselves as no longer being half of a partnership whereas women are more likely to pick up new activities and join groups during the marriage than men do this allows women to have a social

connection that can still exist after a divorce men don't get involved in new activities after a marriage dissolution .

4. men rush into new relationships since men don't take the time to grieve correctly they don't want to be alone after a divorce and will most likely rush into a new relationship right away in this manner they can meet someone new and suppress all their feelings and disappointments with a failed marriage this can lead to troublesome

Relationships on the other hand women take time out to grieve and examine their emotions women will also take their time before

entering a new relationship making a future relationship stronger

women are also more likely to not rush into something new because face it who wants to feel like they are back in high school with all the uncertainties of those relationships divorced women are much less likely to remarry than divorced men if you notice online dating sites have a large excess of men over women many women with children that divorce doesn't want to enter into another relationship after the first wasn't successful for fear of a new relationship not lasting either

5- men miss their children more often than not after a divorce the

mother ends up with child custody this will leave men only seeing their children on a custody schedule and not on an everyday basis as they did when they were married men will feel like they aren't a part of

the children's lives anymore because they miss the big baseball game parties or other events that still exist men don't appreciate calling their children to find out what's going on women on the other hand are still a significant player in the children's lives if they live with their mom most often the mom will feel fulfilled and distracted from unproductive feelings because the children are with her and she interacts with them on a daily basis .

6. divorce is hard for everyone breakups are hard for both men and women but most women are better able to cope with their feelings and move on after grieving than men do women are also shown to come out stronger after a divorce while men may try to move forward and never overcome the anguish it has caused them so it may be in your best interest as women to give your ex-husband a bit of a

break for your children's sake .

most likely your kids will still want to spend time with him and this can help him immensely with health and relationships in the future if men feel like they failed at the marriage it can hone their paternal skills to spend time with the children and even reinstall the

needed sense of belonging and providing for the children .