Some thoughts on educating children

As parents, we are often troubled by our children's disobedience and have headaches about how to educate them. So how can we provide good education to our children without affecting their physical and mental health? Smart parents all understand these four words.

1. How harmful is verbal violence to children?

I remember a saying my neighbor’s uncle often said when I was young: “A filial son will emerge from a stick, and a disobedient son will be born from pampering.” I often hear parents say things like: "If you don't obey me, get out", "Look at me, why don't you show me some face", "You have the face to show me after you have scored so few points".

Thinking about it now, those words of our parents are like a sharp knife, deeply engraved in our hearts.

Maybe many parents will say that it doesn't matter if the child is disobedient and scolded, it won't affect anything. However, they don't know how much harm verbal violence can cause to children.

I believe that the vast majority of parents truly love their children, but they often inadvertently use verbal violence against their children. Parents are eager for their children to succeed, but when their children's behavior fails to meet their parents' expectations. In their desperation, they say things that hurt the children. However, have parents ever thought that your casual belittling, ridicule, and insult may cause irreparable harm?

Pediatrician Adele Farber said: “Never underestimate the impact of your words on your child’s life.”

2.Shout-style education is destroying children

Yesterday I was walking with a friend and met a mother sending her daughter to school. As she walked, she yelled at her child: "Are you a pig? You don't know where you left your schoolbag, so why don't you lose it yourself?"

I was very surprised to hear what this mother said. It is normal for adults to throw things. It is really embarrassing to treat children in this tone. When encountering a problem, work with your child to find a solution so that the child can continue to grow in thinking instead of just scolding and complaining.

For parents, yelling lasts only a moment. But for children, it may be a lifelong shadow. Children who grow up with yelling tend to be indecisive and unconfident.

Every time you yell at your child, do you really understand what he is thinking? Many times we think that the child is disobedient. If you listen carefully to your child's ideas, you will be grateful for your patience.

The yelling education method will make children subconsciously think that just yelling can solve the problem, which will affect the children's future behavior habits. As parents, we should control our emotions and listen carefully to our children's ideas in order to achieve good communication results.

3.The best education is to speak softly to children

The power of language is powerful. Regular encouragement and praise can establish a healthy and positive attitude towards life in children, and also make children become more brave and independent.

Child psychologists believe that children's hearts are very delicate and fragile. Children who grow up with yelling and scolding have a very strong inferiority complex, while children who grow up with gentle talk are not only strong in self-confidence, but also very independent. .

As parents, we should discover more of the strengths of our children. Your words of affirmation, encouragement, and trust are all the strength and support for children to develop good self-awareness.

The best parents never let their children feel unfamiliar or afraid.

The best education is to speak softly to children.