How to educate children

The secret of education is to respect children, love children from the heart, rather than to the educator. Put yourself and your child on an equal and respectful footing. In this way, it is easy to eliminate opposing emotions between children and parents, easy to exchange, communication, reduce the child's fear and rebellious psychology. Gentle education is better than angry criticism. The education process of children is always full of love, tolerance and warmth, and good at discovering the "bright spot" from the mistakes of the target of criticism. That way, critics won't think they're worthless or alienate their parents by feeling like they don't like me anymore.

Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, the children will find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents will generally angrily called the child's behavior as "sophistry", in fact, this is not sophistry, but a feedback of the child's education to parents. Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also receive feedback from their children. Only in this way can education achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents do not realize this point, they only "teach" themselves, do not care about the information back from the children, such education often fails to achieve the purpose of parents want.

When children give feedback to our education, we first need to analyze the feedback of children. Of course, this analysis is not only for the analysis of children's language, but also for the analysis of children's actions and expressions. But it is worth the attention of parents, whether the child's feedback is "sophistry", be sure to respect the child's feedback. In the above education case, when the child said "the children in our class said so", the mother did not analyze the feedback of the child, and shouted at the child, which is not a kind of disrespect for the child's feedback. So, the mother didn't know that ---- didn't think "you're stupid" was a dirty word. It is conceivable that parents misinterpret and suppress the child's feedback, and in the long run, the child will never respond positively to the mother's education. Without the cooperation of children, parents will certainly have no way to educate their children.

When the parents analyze the problem of the child's feedback, they can target the child's feedback for purposeful education. For example, if the child feedback out of the problem he does not know the importance of politeness, parents will never, you can through examples, truth to tell the importance of politeness, to guide children to be a polite good child; If the problem the child reports is that he doesn't want to be held responsible for his recent mistakes, the parent should isolate the child as a person who can correct his mistakes and act boldly... In short, no matter what feedback children give to their parents' education, respecting and carefully analyzing children's feedback is the first prerequisite to achieve the purpose of education.

Psychologists have done such an experiment: given a person a watch, when someone asks the person the time, the person can tell the time quickly and confidently; However, when the man was given two different watches, the watch reader was unable to tell the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person more accurate time, but will let the watch people lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this the "watch phenomenon," and it leads to the conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation when doing something. Later, people called this result the "watch theorem." Therefore, in the education of children, do not say inconsistent, otherwise it will let the child do not know what to do.

That's what I've learned over the years.