Why are you letting yourself feel worthless?

Have you felt that you are worthless or have anyone made you feel that you are good for nothing then this is for you.

In life, there are some situations where you need to be selfish in order not to lose yourself forever and it's not bad. The most important thing in anyone's life is self-confidence and it even depends on the people who surround us. Positive people will always help you to develop a positive outlook towards life and negative people will make you and your whole life negative and mostly these people make you feel useless.

The first step is to get away from such people. They act like poison to your life. Just think if you die tomorrow do you want to remember that some people around you made you so weak emotionally and mentally that you started feeling so worthless, as the last memory or you want to remember that people around you didn't affect you because you framed your mind in such a way that nothing disturbed you.

The main problem for such people is that they expect other people rather than themselves to make them feel happy. They believe that happiness comes from others or from the outside world which is completely an illusion. It comes from within, from yourself. Nobody except you in this whole freaking world has the ability to make you feel good permanently. There is a difference between hyped up (by people) and feeling contented (by themselves). You are made feel worthless because you allow them to make you feel that way.

You don't have to be emotionally dependent on anyone. Not everyone is gonna like you or say good about you. We all are bad in someone's story but that doesn't mean we are devils. Isn't? Just because someone dislikes you or says something which can be a little mean to you, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough.

I know it's the worst feeling ever because I have literally gone through it the whole of my childhood and almost my teenage life but one thing is very clear to me now that I was trying to seek love outside instead of loving myself. Even people who love you may say something sometimes which might hurt you but it doesn't mean that you will hate yourself.

You need to be very strong-minded and believe me it will get easier every time. There will be some people who will love to make fun of you out of their own self-doubt and to just pull you down in a way or so. Just don't let them do this. Act as if they don't exist. Act like you don't hear them or see them and you will eventually won't notice them in your life anymore. It will not be fun for them anymore. This is your power. This is what you can control. You can actually control how to make yourself strong mentally and emotionally both.

Always remember not everyone deserves you as an angel, some deserve you as a witch too. Your politeness is your undoing. You are expected to be polite and you should be but not with everyone. You should stand up for yourself and speak your heart out. You don't have to be tolerant of anything wrong and you don't have to give people a chance when they are wrong. You don't have to go out of your way to impress them and be someone they want you to be. You are who you are and that is going to define your worth. People's comments will not define what type of person you are, it's you who will make a place for yourself.

You don't have to value yourself less as described by someone. Your value cannot be determined ever. Perceive yourself at a higher level in your eyes and no one will ever be able to shake you or your roots up. Bullies are the first ones to step back in a confrontation because they themselves are broken and totally disturbed inside and like to prey on the weak. Just leave them behind, you don't have to fit in with assholes.

Surround yourself with people who are happy in your victory and not jealous and planning over how to make you lose. You don't have to allow people to treat you less. You don't even have to let yourself undervalue yourself. You don't have to tell yourself that you cannot do anything right or you are undeserving. Even our own negative thoughts make us feel worthless. If someone has left you it doesn't mean that you are unlovable. Losing a toxic person is your win. That person simply doesn't deserve a diamond. Treat yourself like a queen if nobody else does.

Now just forgive yourself for the past mistakes. If you don't then you will be stuck in an attitude of self-recrimination and shame which will stop your growth. Truly loving people will come to you themselves. Shake off your past which was a burden until now. Be happy. Start new with a new personality. It will not be built in a day, it's a process and it will take time. Be patient.

Let bygones be bygones.