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Stop Loving Someone And Start Moving Forward

How to control feelings for someone you love

By Mehedi Hasan ShawonPublished about a year ago 3 min read
Stop Loving Someone And Start Moving Forward
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Most people fall in love with the wrong people at the wrong time. If you suddenly like or love someone, there is nothing left to do. But when you realize that you have fallen in love with the wrong person, the danger is there. Once you fall in love with someone, it is not easy to get rid of him/her. If you realize that you have fallen in love with the wrong person, what will you do?

Advise yourself like a scholar

Suppose I am your best friend. I fell in love with a girl who got married. In such a situation you must say, 'My friend, the girl is very beautiful but she is married. Don't bother yourself thinking about her anymore. Accept reality. That girl was not right for you.

There are many more beautiful girls you can fall in love with. Forget her and start a new life.' Again, if I have trouble thinking of a girl who has died! Then you might say to me, 'My friend, the girl is dead. Don't bother her anymore. Accept reality.'

Now think of these words for yourself. If you can give such advice to a friend, then why not in your case? So make decisions based on reality. In the world, the reality is more important than emotion.

Try to stop remembering about him/her you love

It is normal to remember the person you love. But when the time comes to forget, the mind cannot be easily taken away from him/her. So do something so that he/she does not come to the fore. Keep yourself busy.

Do all the things you need to focus on. You can call it 'Divert to the right path.' So whenever he comes to your attention, engage yourself in other activities. For example, if you like drawing, do so. If you love reading books, do so, play video games, chat with friends, and so on.

Fraternize with friends

If you want to forget about your love, fraternize with different people every day. Depression is more likely to be suppressed if you keep yourself confined to a room. His/her memories will be remembered more and more.

You may think, 'I will do different things all day and return home many nights.' That way I can forget him/her.' But your idea is wrong. The more you want to be alone, the heavier your mind will become.

But if you spend time with different people or with your friends, it will not happen. Because if you are among friends, you will be busy with them. Once you have fun with your friends, you will feel better. So spend quality time with them.

Think like him/her

What if someone you don't like offers you a relationship? Of course, you might say, 'Leave me alone. Please get off me.' You don't want him/her to come to you a second time. Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person.

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Then think like him/her. That's what you would do if you were in his/her place. Don't be insulted in front of him/her. Maybe he/she's not in your destiny. So if you do not want to increase your suffering, slowly move away from him/her.

Allow the relationship to grow naturally

Maybe there is a lot of instability working in your mind. You may be thinking, 'I'll tell him/her 'I love you.' Then I'll hang out together, go on a date, have a lot of fun blah blah blah. But in reality, no such situation has arisen among you yet. He/She may not be positive about you yet.

So let your relationship grow naturally. Gain him/her trust and wonder first. Maybe the wrong person will become your right person.


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