Six years ago, I was working in a company

Let me tell you a story. Six years ago, when I was working in a company, I had a close colleague, a woman in her 30s from Shanghai. Please call her Ms. Li. Ms. Li is very kind to me. Sometimes when I work late, she takes me out to eat. We got to know each other, and she used to tell me about her husband. Ms. Li's husband, who is nearly 20 years older than her, should be called Mr. Zheng. Before that, Mr. Zheng had an ex-wife. Well, Ms. Li was the mistress in charge, and it took nearly 10 years. According to her, when she was a little girl, she started dating the married Mr. Zheng. After getting married with Mr. Zheng, she could not stand Mr. Zheng and his ex-wife, so she regarded his ex-wife as an enemy, and from time to time ran to his ex-wife's micro blog to scold her, was blocked on the change of the trumpet-scold, no play no. Swearing at her ex-wife, arguing with her husband, teasing me was a large part of her daily life, and the daily battle made her look radiant. Mr. Zheng made A small fortune in foreign trade in his early days, but gradually declined in recent years. Perhaps working too hard in his career, Mr. Zheng developed diabetes and high blood pressure in old age, along with sexual dysfunction. For the latter, Mr. Zheng tried many methods, including taking Viagra, but the drugs had side effects that his heart couldn't handle. So, Mr. Li completely gave up treatment, began to Buddhist health. In his own words, the older he gets, the more he finds that many things are beyond his control. It is better to just leave them alone and let them go. In this way, he always keeps himself in a state of low pressure. After Mr. Zheng fell ill, his ex-wife cut off contact with Mr. Zheng, and Ms. Li quieted down for a while. Her ex-wife disappeared from her life, and her enemy became Mr. Zheng. Ms. Li found it impossible to live with her husband as a bestie. She wanted Mr. Zheng to treat her, but Mr. Zheng was not interested. Ms. Li began to have an affair with another man. Once, with lover phone sex, was caught in the act. Mr. Zheng did not say anything, this indifference, let Ms. Li's mood fell to the bottom. The more indifferent Mr. Zheng was, the more disappointed she was. She wished Mr. Zheng would stop her or throw a tantrum. Mr. Zheng just said, as long as you're happy. Ms. Li was very disappointed, and gradually, her disappointment turned into resentment. She kept blocking Mr. Li, adding him back from the blacklist, arguing for a divorce, and refused to enter the Civil affairs Bureau. Later, Ms. Li invited her lover to her home directly, and deliberately let Mr. Li walk in on her and Mr. Li's room. She has been making all kinds of accidents, trying to provoke Mr. Zheng, but all in vain. She tried desperately to get her husband's attention and just wanted to prove that she was loved. Her enemy was, in fact, an imaginary enemy. In this kind of life, Ms. Li seems to live younger and younger. For a long time she didn't tease me, I thought she was modified. Until I stumbled across her moments and found that she had shared several posts about depression and suicide. I quickly called her, the voice on the other end of the line was very sad. She told me that Mr. Zheng had passed away, with complications of acute kidney failure, and was going fast. She didn't want to live. There was nothing to live for. I tried to visit her, but I was turned down. She said she wasn't in the mood, wasn't interested in living, and wanted to go with her husband. Ex-wife, no longer in touch, Mr. Zheng also passed away, there is no object for her anger. All the enemies she had ever had in life were gone, along with her motivation to live. From birth, through adolescence, through adulthood and into old age, human beings spend their entire lives fighting their enemies. Enemies are sometimes real people -- teachers, parents, children, partners. Sometimes it's a virtual thing, like a test, a job, a career, an ideal, an illness. When you're young, you do everything you can to grow up, just to escape the control of your parents and teachers. As an adult, you try to make money and fire your boss. You've had enough of your partner and want to have an affair. Finally one day, the boss was fired by you; Your partner doesn't care where you spend the night; Your children, too, are tired of talking back to you; Your ideal, also dispensable. Then you find that life is boring! When you have no enemies, it means you have lost contact with the world, and it is time to say goodbye to the world. So, the most important thing in life is to make enemies for yourself. In the struggle with the enemy, we can truly understand their own existence, and give some meaning to life. Otherwise, this ethereal life, how difficult ah!