Money for Sex

She is young and beautiful and up until lately, was unusually sheltered and conservative.

She’d only had one serious relationship with whom she lost her virginity and had sex with two other short-lived boyfriends after that.

She met a 38-year-old man who was kind and generous and loving. And she really liked him.

He was financially successful and treated her to fancy dinners and romantic vacations.

She was an administrative assistant with a large corporation, barely making enough money to afford a studio apartment and the basics of life.

They both were dating other people.

Neither wanted to date exclusively but enjoyed each other emotionally and physically.

He suggested they keep seeing each other and he would compensate her financially, enough to cover her living expenses.

She agreed and they met a couple of times a week at a resort hotel, enjoying time together until he decided to call things off.

She liked the arrangement so much that she found a website that matched wealthy men with women and started dating men for money.

She found she was making more money dating men than as a secretary and quit her job.

She no longer was interested in dating a man who wasn’t able to provide her with financial compensation.

When asked if she was satisfied with dating men who were paying for her affection, she explained that her traditional boyfriends bought her dinner and gifts and paid for vacations, the only difference is her arranged dates gave her cash on top of that.

When asked if she ever wanted to get married and have children, she said no. She generally didn’t trust men and always felt controlled and manipulated when in a traditional monogamous relationship.

When asked if she was afraid she would get to an age where she could no longer sell her body, she got indignant. “My parents have money, and I will someday inherit a decent amount. If I decide to pay a man to be romantic with me, would you dare ask him how he felt about selling his body to me?” she continued “What if I took a man in and paid his bills so he didn’t have to work, would that make him a whore?”

She explained how there is always a trade-off in romantic relationships. One person might pay all the bills and therefore feel entitled to have multiple sex partners. One person may be significantly older or younger and appreciate being taken care of in the way each of them can offer.

When asked about true love, about finding a soul mate, she laughed.

That’s fairy tale nonsense. Love is about attraction, mutual respect, financial arrangements, and sex, you know it, I know it, everybody knows it.

Aren’t you afraid you will owe a man something if he is paying you so much money, she was asked?

Nobody has a gun to their heads. Does a man or woman owe their spouse something because one of them works and the other stays home?

She summed her philosophy up, “I don’t believe in the kind of love most people do. In fact, I think love is what we call the euphoric sensation we get from the dopamine hit when someone turns us on physically or financially.”

“We're all going to get old someday and sex isn’t going to matter as much, if at all,” she continued. “In the meanwhile, I’m living the life that brings me the most satisfaction.”

When asked what she would do if a man who was paying for her affection ran out of money, she said if she loved him she would stay.

Whew! That was a close one.