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Grace in Silence

From The Mind of Little & Adult Me

By Alexandra LaceyPublished 4 months ago 3 min read
Grace in Silence
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"He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words." - Elbert Hubbard

As youth we are taught to speak up for what we want in life, to grow with the world and expand our verbal presence as far and as wide as our physical existence. As adults, we often opt for and encourage one another to share our opinions freely, blossoming the ideology that if our words were to dissipate, so would the very breath we breathe.

By my teenage years, I had come to terms with the fact that speech, more so my lack thereof, was my biggest downfall. I was the type of the kid that would tremble answering a question in front of a crowd, and indeed peed her pants giving a presentation my 11th year of school. Being social was never in my agenda of things to tick off for the day, and the trees were my most favorite of friends. Outcast could not put but a dent in what I was, through my very own eyes.

It wasn't until decades later, when I was looking back one day and pondering how the hell I had ever gotten so lucky to have my first horse gifted to me. That venture is a bit of a story within itself, but the reality there was that a young woman had recognized a grace in me that I had nothing but loathing towards. She pulled me aside one day and said to me "You know what is so incredible about being the most quiet one in the room? Because when you do come forward and speak, everyone stops to listen."

As time went on, I grew to not only cherish those words, but I began to understand that language is essentially obsolete. Eyes give way to truths that a mouth may not provide with accuracy, hands offer insight deep into the mind, and body language orchestrates all immediate desires. What more could one possibly desire aside from the rawest of truths?

Perhaps it is harsh to say, or unconventional at best, but from time to time I simply sit there and ask myself in reference to others "Do you ever shut up?". I mean it in the most endearing of ways, really truly. For I am no monster, if I were to ever vocalize this it would be with the most genuine of intentions. The moment people stop striving to be better, to outdo, to outperform and topple the person before them, is the very moment they find their true value. What can that person provide when words are no longer an option? What can your soul seek to share with mine that it possesses merely through physical being? What kindness can you soften me with if there is none within your intent? How can one absorb anything if that space is taken up with thoughts of what to say next? How can I feel the urge to give you my innermost thoughts when all that seem to matter are yours?

When humanity as a whole is trampling one another with rights and wrongs, dos and don'ts, pay close attention to where those words end up. For unfortunately for us, they are often left on the floor as both parties go back and forth in the never-ending debate of who inconvenienced who. Upon draining one another of all energy to bicker, they will part ways and make do with what is left. But at the end of the day, both sides had something to teach, and yet both will walk away questioning only one very volatile thing. Did I win the debate?


About the Creator

Alexandra Lacey

Los Angeles >>> Las Vegas

I am a young entrepreneur with lots of stories and experiences to share! I have been on my own the majority of my young adult life, and love offering tips and tricks on how to make it in this world.

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  • Rene Volpi 4 months ago

    Opinions. You do know what some would say about them, don't you? 😋

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