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From Heartbreaking to healing: A Man's Journey

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By Abdulrafiu AyubaPublished about a month ago β€’ 3 min read
From Heartbreaking to healing: A Man's Journey
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Breakups can be traumatic, and men often struggle to process their emotions. I'm here to talk about my own experience and the four phases I went through: acceptance, obsession, anger, and moving on. I learned that understanding and coping with emotions is key to growth. I want to encourage men to embrace their feelings and connect with others, rather than resorting to toxic behaviors. Let's break down the stigma around emotional expression and support each other in healing and self-discovery.

When I went through a tough breakup, I realized that men don't often talk about their feelings or emotions. I searched for videos on the topic and found that most of them focused on getting over a breakup by going to the gym, making money, or getting women. But I didn't find any that talked about the emotional process of grieving a lost love. I went through four phases: acceptance, where I understood why the breakup happened; obsession, where everything reminded me of my ex; anger, where I felt a fire in my stomach and a desire to prove myself; and moving on, where I started to heal and move forward.

I want to encourage men to acknowledge and process their emotions, rather than suppressing them. It's okay to feel sad, depressed, angry, and confused after a breakup. It's important to acknowledge these emotions and work through them. I'm not here to offer quick fixes or advice on how to get back out there, but rather to encourage men to turn inward and focus on their own emotional well-being. Let's try to be kinder to ourselves and others, and remember that emotions are what make us stronger.

Let's break down the toxic norms that prevent us from feeling and connecting with each other. You deserve to feel, to mourn, and to be here. Take care, stay true to yourself, and remember that it's okay to feel. In fact, 79% of people who take their own lives are men, and this is often because we don't value our emotions enough. I want to encourage men to understand that their emotions are important, even the painful ones.

My advice is to turn inward and focus on your own healing, rather than trying to distract yourself with external things. Try complimenting your friends, giving gifts to those you care about, and offering hugs to those who need them. Remember that you deserve to feel and heal, and that it's okay to take your time.

I know that it's hard to be vulnerable, especially for men. We're often taught to be strong and stoic, to bottle up our emotions and keep them locked away. But I want to tell you that vulnerability is strength, not weakness. It takes courage to be open and honest about your feelings, and it's the only way to truly heal and move forward.

I'm not asking you to be perfect, or to have all the answers. I'm just asking you to be willing to listen, to learn, and to grow. Let's create a space where men can be themselves, without fear of judgment or rejection. Let's create a space where we can be vulnerable, and where we can support each other in our healing journeys.

I believe that we can do this, and that we can create a more compassionate and empathetic world. A world where men can be themselves, without fear of judgment or rejection. A world where we can be vulnerable, and where we can support each other in our healing journeys.

So let's take the first step, and let's start talking. Let's start sharing our stories, our fears, and our dreams. Let's start being vulnerable, and let's start healing. Together, we can create a brighter future, and a world where men can be themselves, without fear of judgment or rejection.

In conclusion, breakups can be traumatic, but they can also be an opportunity for growth and healing. Let's embrace our emotions, and let's support each other in our healing journeys. Let's create a space where men can be themselves, without fear of judgment or rejection. Let's create a space where we can be vulnerable, and where we can support each other in our healing journeys.

Thank you.

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  • Esala Gunathilakeabout a month ago

    Oh, my heartbeat was high at the moment.

Abdulrafiu AyubaWritten by Abdulrafiu Ayuba

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