A Hidden Enemy can sometimes do you more Favours than a Friend

A Hidden Enemy In astrology is a 12th house matter, this section of the horoscope is also known as the House of Sorrow, Isolation and Self-Undoing. It represents a blind spot in our lives - an energy that, no matter how hard we try, seems to constantly slip through our fingers. Because we struggle to consciously connect with and materialize the energy, any attempt to manifest it often gets us into trouble.

The 12th house seems doomed to remain elusive.

There are ways to spot the subtle signs of dislike of a Hidden Enemy operating in your friendship, or neighbourhood group. Even if the person you're dealing with appears charming and friendly, often they're the worst. Why? Because you just don't see them coming.

The benefits of criticism from your Hidden Enemy, often disguised as well-meaning comments, can encourage you to 'go the extra mile' when you were about to give up. Effectively you're going to show them you can do it, and that they're wrong. Sometimes this is just the motivation you need.

It can encourage you to improve your appearance, to make the most of yourself, or to improve your topics of conversation resulting in better communications with others.

Your Hidden Enemy can encourage advancement in your career as you work on your talents and strengths to obtain new skills, or improve your existing skills because life seems to be full of unseen obstacles.

A Hidden Enemy is capable of vandalising your property. Like most criminals they will be interested in the outcome after each attack and may appear concerned for you, don't be taken in they just want to see how their unkindness has affected you. After each item they destroy or damage, you need to show resilience and say something like 'oh, I'm so glad that fence has fallen down, I wanted to plant a hedge there' and try to keep some semblance of balance about the betrayal felt.

A hidden enemy can cause chaos in your life

Your Hidden Enemy can, and usually does, cause chaos in your life because you just don't see them coming. Their agenda is unconscious, whilst you remain blind to their intentions as they act overtly.

If you manage to spot it, and it's not just your own insecurity, their little tricks and lies can ruin your self-esteem, confidence and happiness; especially if you allow it to feed any paranoia you may have.

Imagine a neighbour who's spreading false gossip about you:

It could seriously damage your career (if you work locally, or your colleagues live locally);

it can encourage vandalism of your property;

Service Providers may overcharge whilst providing a poor service;

You could get little to no co-operation in local activities (you get the tasks no-one else wants)

Hidden enemy and inheritance

A close friend of mine lost a significant amount of inheritance due to sibling rivalry where one of her family successfully managed to ruin her relationship with her mother, with nothing more than unsubstantiated lies and spite. That is a minefield right enough.

Sometimes we can't fathom out why someone else's behaviour has changed so suddenly for no apparent reason. We may try to get to the bottom of the matter only to find the resistance gets stronger.

Romantic relationships can be ruined when a partner is told 'you know they tell lies, don't you?' Then some credible, always damaging stories are fabricated. To finish off, your Hidden Enemy may say something like 'but if you ask them, they'll deny it because they're a liar'. No, they'll deny it because it's not true, but the rot and mistrust has already set in.

The agenda of the Hidden Enemy is usually the result of an insecure person seeking to elevate themselves.

One of my favourite quotes is: "To criticise others is to praise yourself" they're not saying the other person is bad, what they're actually saying is "LOOK AT ME, I'M BETTER!"

A Hidden Enemy can be the motive of a person who's envious of your physical appearance, wealth or class. This type of person is incapable of seeing the benefits of a deep, honest and trusting friendship, with someone who will be a benefit in their life, and possibly raise them up, or help increase their understanding of the world and they view everybody as a competitor.

There are some relationships that are difficult to deal with normally, and even more difficult to avoid. If any of them show themselves to be your Hidden Enemy it may be in your best interests to distance this person, if at all possible. Perhaps becoming busy is the easiest way, concentrate on improving your life elsewhere. Taking on charity work of any kind is sometimes the solution, it's hard to be cruel to a person who is giving their time or money to a worthy cause.

Unfortunately, the resentments can go back years if not decades. It may be something that is so trivial you never gave it a second thought, but your hidden enemy has harboured thoughts of revenge for a very long time. Medical science has shown this attitude can contribute to Alzheimers or dementia later in life. If you can manage to make your hidden enemy realise they are hurting themselves, ultimately it could lead to a very strong relationship.

There is also the possibility that a hidden enemy could try to convince people that you committed a crime, for which they are guilty of, and successfully 'frame' you as the culprit.

Photo by Naomi August on UnsplashMost people don't feel comfortable being disliked

We are often led to believe that if we work on our communication skills, develop a positive mindset, the interactions with these people will improve. Unfortunately, its not a 'one sized fits all' solution.

"The trouble with most of us is that we'd rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism." – Norman Vincent Peale

The criticism of our Adversary can either make or break us - Strive to ensure it Makes you stronger.

Confronting it head-on also seems to be a clumsy way forward. Although, recently I have started to use the phrase 'have I done something to offend you?' in dealing with the issue.

One such hidden enemy replied to that question by asking 'like what?'

'Like breathing' I replied with a wry smile.

You don't have to be rude to stand up to others.

"The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without resentment."

- Elbert Hubbard