What happens when you're jealous?

There are many readers, let me talk about jealousy. To be honest, I don't know anything about jealousy because I have no relevant experience. In my experience, I seldom experience jealousy. When I wrote about this topic, I thought about it. I couldn't remember who I had ever envied. Jealousy doesn't seem to patronize me. It's not how good I am, it's not that I'm better than others, so there's no object of jealousy. Jealousy has nothing to do with whether a person is good or not. Many people who look good are also very jealous. Some people who look ordinary may not be jealous.

Although I have no experience of jealousy, readers have repeatedly asked me to try to talk about it. Jealousy often happens to the same kind. Rainbow is beautiful, you will not envy it, right? meteor shower is very gorgeous, fireworks are very bright, these are beautiful, you do not have, you will not be jealous. The tortoise lives a long life and can live for hundreds of years. Do you envy the tortoise? do you fly thousands of miles without tiredness? do you envy it? do you always have a young and bright appearance? do you envy it? deer, tortoise, crane, respectively, they are the representatives of not thinking about lewdness, not thinking about food, not thinking about sleep, they have such a good spirit, would you envy them? you won't.

Every kind of life has its own strengths, and every kind of life has something better than you, better than you, and worth learning from. When you face these lives, you may appreciate them completely, and you may have some envy and yearning, but you will not be jealous. However, you may be jealous when your colleagues, your friends, strangers you meet, or other people show obvious beauty and are more beautiful than you, making you feel inferior to them. Some people will be jealous, some people won't.

Jealousy is someone who is better than you, better than you, and gets more than you, showing slight resentment. When jealousy grows up, it is resentment, and if it shrinks, it is envy. Envy can bring positive feelings, but jealousy and resentment usually only bring negative feelings. Jealousy, there is a word disease, is a kind of mental illness. Jealousy is a psychological imbalance.

Jealousy, why often happens to the same kind, people will not be jealous of animals, will not be jealous of nature, but people will be jealous of people, women are more likely to envy women. Since they are of the same kind, it means that they need the same survival resources, and it means that there is some kind of competition among the same kind. When you consciously, unconsciously, intentionally, unintentionally, regard the other person as a competitor, once he is better and stronger than you, how can you accept the fact that it is a little cruel to you?

Why he has, why I don't, where is he better than me, and where am I worse than him? when you have a mentality like this, jealousy will happen, jealousy is already happening. There are two external conditions for jealousy. First, you are the same kind, you think you have some degree of competition, you have something to compare. Second, the other person is obviously better than you, better than you, and more than you get. In this case, your psychological situation is good or bad, and you need to take back this psychological advantage through some kind of counterattack, and jealousy will occur at this time. Jealousy is an attack.

For the psychological needs of competitive advantage, people tend to underestimate their competitors and think highly of themselves at the same time. As long as you think that competition exists, this situation of belittling others and belittling yourself will always exist. When this situation exists, arrogance and jealousy will occur. If you look at yourself and others in a balanced, equal, true and objective way, jealousy and arrogance will disappear.

You don't have to compete with others, you just need to show yourself. In the process of showing yourself, you may also show that you are competing with others, but this is only a facade. It's like a tug-of-war, it looks like you're competing for strength, you're competing, but all you need to do is give full play to your strength, and that's enough. You don't need to pay attention to how much power others have exerted, and you don't need to attack others so that other people's power can't be exerted. If you try your best, it is acceptable to win or lose. But if you do not do your best, your strength does not play out, you will not be convinced, you will think, why should I lose to him.

The sum of what you get now is just the expression of your true ability at the moment, just as the sum of what others get now is just the expression of their true ability at the moment. The universe has never owed anyone. What you get is suitable for you, what you don't get, it's not suitable for you for the time being, you want it, you don't get it now, but you get it later, it's not suitable for you now, and it suits you later. You got it now, but then you lost it. That's what suits you now, but it doesn't suit you anymore. That's true for everyone.

What you get now is just right, but if you are not satisfied, then what you need to do is to show more of your life strength. You have a lot to do on the subject of showing the strength of your life, and there are always and always a lot of things to do. You have a lot of potential, you have unlimited potential. If you want to show more life power, you don't have much time and energy to pay attention to others.

If you can show more life power, if your heart is unimpeded, you will sincerely appreciate and admire when you meet people who are stronger than you, better than you, and have more merits and virtues than you. Just like you appreciate all good things. You will not envy them, if you want to be like them, you will humbly ask them for advice.

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