Some parents, let me talk about tutoring. I have talked about some of it before, but I will talk about it again in this article, and I will continue to talk about it in the future.

The so-called tutoring includes a small part of parents' initiative to teach, as well as a large part of parents' unconscious and passive transmission. This small part and most, if there is a quantity proportion, a small part may account for 4%, and most can account for 96%. This figure is not necessarily accurate, but is only used to illustrate the extent of the difference between small and big.

Where does this number come from? it is a study of psychological science, to the effect that people's apparent consciousness accounts for only 4%, and the subconscious accounts for 96%. The conscious and subconscious can be simply understood as conscious and unconscious. We say that thinking determines behavior, so for most people, no matter what you do, your consciousness accounts for only 4% at any time. Unless you are an accomplished person, your conscious mind can account for more than 90% or more.

Similarly, in the process of tutoring, you consciously educate, guide, and intervene, and what you do is only 4% of the whole tutoring. The remaining 96% of the tutoring, you are unconsciously, unconsciously, passively passed out, the child is affected in this way. Children's learning ability is very strong, receptive ability is very strong, learning anytime, anywhere, their learning is also divided into two parts, conscious learning and unconscious learning, what to learn actively, that is conscious learning, passively affected, that is unconscious learning.

According to the traditional education of our country, teaching by example is greater than teaching by words. what does this teaching mean, not only what you teach your children to do, but also that the whole physical and mental state you present is education to your children unconsciously. You stand there, you sit there, you lie there, no matter what you are doing or doing nothing, the physical and mental state you present is having an impact on the child and imperceptibly forming a kind of education for the child, which is called teaching by example. This kind of teaching happens all the time.

when you are there, even if you don't say anything, don't do anything, even if you don't have an obvious expression on your face, the child can roughly tell whether you are angry or happy, nervous or relaxed. This kind of judgment does not need to think with the brain, but is a kind of intuition.

If you read my article "the three elements of energy that influence you and determine the energy intensity you can feel", you can see why children are easily influenced by their parents, in addition to the strong receptive ability of the children mentioned above. it is also because of the close relationship between children and parents, there is a more stable energy transmission channel between them. Even if the sending ability of parents is very small, children can easily perceive it. If parents have strong energy and sending ability, then obvious telepathic phenomena can even be established with their children.

To put it bluntly, your child may know more about you than you do about yourself. This is why parents should learn more from their children. In the process, you will know more about yourself. People often wonder why children suddenly become mindful and stop telling the truth to their parents, and sometimes even lie. Parents have never taught this. Why? there is no doubt that they follow adults, especially parents.

The child can fully judge whether what you say is the truth from your heart, or some reasons you find to deal with his questions. And this, many parents do not know, they will think that what they are saying is the truth of their hearts, they do not know their hearts. If a child likes to make excuses and makes excuses, then he learns from his parents. If a child feels that this is not good, that is not good, and there are all kinds of restrictions, then he is learning from his parents.

Children, not only in learning your habits, but also in learning your attitude towards life. Your state of mind is affecting the child at any time and forming an invisible education to the child at any time. Fathers may not necessarily have a deep understanding of this, but mothers mostly have a profound experience. In the fetus, in the baby, if there is a significant change in your mood, even if you don't do anything to them, they can obviously feel it, and make some reactions, and if you pay attention to observe, you will personally verify that their reactions, there is indeed a clear correlation between these reactions and changes in your state of mind.

Tutoring lies not only in what you teach on your own initiative, but also in what kind of physical and mental state you are, presented in this family and in front of your children. However, as mentioned above, this is not a complete tutoring. Complete tutoring, not only parents are teaching their children, but also the other half, parents also have to receive education from their children. Education is a kind of influence, and the influence is mutual.

God has arranged so cleverly that children come to earth and their parents teach them the rules of the world, which can help children live better in the world, but at the same time, there is a hidden arrangement for parents to receive their children's spiritual education, or naive education, which can help parents who have already become numb in the rules of the world to re-learn to transcend the rules of the world and return to innocence and spirituality.

This hidden arrangement is kind and friendly, but only open-minded parents, receptive parents, parents who are willing to grow up with their children, and parents who know how to love can feel this ingenious arrangement. People often say that children are angels. If you really think children are angels, why not learn from angels? if there is no child after child, bringing fresh vitality to the world and bringing love to the world, then the world will become lifeless.

People think that it is only natural for parents to educate their children, but most people do not think that educators are also educated, and parents can also receive education from their children. In the process of two-way education, children and parents have equal opportunities to grow up. Children and parents in the same environment, if the children grow up, the parents do not grow up, that is, the parents' learning ability is not enough. There's no other reason.

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