A lot of people seem to pit bisexual and pansexual people against each other. I don't understand why, as we both share a lot of similarities. We both are nonmonosexuals that can be rejected from both the straight and LGBTQ+ communities. We can both be told what our sexualities are based on our partners instead of our own attractions. And yet, despite this, these two identities seem to constantly be butting heads over what these labels seem to define. I want to dive into this debate a bit and explain why both of these labels, as well as others, are important to the community. But first, let's define both of these labels to get a good idea of their differences.
If you were to see me just walking around town with my boyfriend, most people would assume I was straight. My relationship is clearly 'straight presenting.' Unless I am wearing something that clearly labels me as bisexual, I am assumed straight. I wish this wasn't true, but I know it's to be expected in everyday life.