Leekeisha Smith
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Unexpected Friend
I have to say, hopefully I am not the only one who feels this way about female friendships. I felt that through out my life, female friendships were hard to either keep or fine. Until I met my bestfriend last year of 2019. No it hasn't been that long since we have considered each other best friends, but that's exactly what it feels like. My best friend Shontierra and I met during vocational school for medical assistants. We met in the introduction part of it. The class was called SOS. You go through the SOS part first before you began your actual medical assistant class. Shontierra, (who goes by Shonti) was sitting all by herself, looking confidant and focused. I was considered the "new" girl coming in because I started a week or two behind. The girls in the classroom looked as if they had already had their clicks or partner in crime beside them. Not Shonti. She was the only one sitting by herself as I sat with another classmate in front. Our first conversation started up as, of course, about astrological signs and what sign are you blah blah blah. She stated that she was a Virgo, and I said, ooooh Virgo? I like Virgos, except for Beyonce, I don't really see the hype, but she is an awesome entertainer. As soon as Shonti said, yes I agree, we were hooked to each other that day! hahaha. Now at first, I didn't think Shonti liked me very much, but when I learned more about her personality, she is an observer who opens up later after getting to know you more. I think she was just feeling me out, as you would call it. We became instant friends becuase we had the same passions, the same goals, and the same morals and values. But what really brought us close was our spiritual persona and openness. We could both talk about things that most people would just look at us crazy and walk away. We are both not religious by any means, but we share a personal relationship with God. And I could tell Shonti about my weird dreams and seeing symbols and signs, and she could tell me the same. It felt very very natural with Shonti and I could be myself. The biggest thing about my awesome friendship with Shonti, is that she doesn't expect anything from me and our friendship. And what I mean by that is, in the past, I have been surrounded by friendships where its supposed to be about give and take, but I usually end up being the giver. And then I give some more and some more, and then their I am left figuring out why I feel so empty and drained all the time. I was giving so much that I forgot what its like to receive in a healthy friendship. Shonti has shown me was a true friend really is. I was not used to a friend bringing me food to class just because, or bringing me a gift just because she thought it was my style and taste. We also disagree and argue like real sisters too. Which is really different from my other girl friendships, because I thought we AGREED on everything and they always took my side, which I never thought it felt right, because true relationships tell you the truth whether you like it or not because they care for you and love you. And that's exactly Shonti and I's relationship. We tell each other the truth no matter what in a loving way and encourage each other through the good and the bad. I could call up Shonti for anything, anytime, or any reason. She ALWAYS has my back, even when we disagree, we both come out laughing. I met Shonti, the same year I lost my younger brother and childhood friend . The year we met was a pivotal time in my life because a lot was going on in my life that was out of my control. But because of my brother's death, it taught me how to live again, and that life was to short, and to start your dreams while you can. If I never went with my gut or intuition to start school, I would have NEVER met Shonti. Once again, yes, Shonti and I have only been friends for about a year and a half, but for me, time doesn't mean anything when your friendship is a blessing from the stars. I am really truly grateful for Shonti. She is the kind of friend that I have been praying for and has shown me my worth and what a true female friend really is. I am very VERY blessed and honored to have her as my best friend and no, I don't believe in coincidences, I believe in fated paths that are bound to cross when the time is right.
By Leekeisha Smith4 years ago in Humans