Jeff Reichman
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Mother Nurture vs Mother nature
What's naturally expected of us is generally implied by our surrounding environment. From a young age to the point we are fully grown adults. There is usually a "natural" order to things, the scientific solution or logical explanation, but isn't there sometime a feeling of something more? We don't solely exist and are how we are just because. We have learned and been taught by the things and many people in our environment around us. Our parents are a prime example of this and moms in particular have a special connection to their children that is especially unique. I've always heard stories from people that I talk to and one thing I've noticed about many moms is that they all remember the days and times of each of their children's birth. Not just the day but the time too. Obviously regardless of the situation each birth of a child is a pivot point in their lives as well as their child's because it was the day everything started for them. As a kid we have no reference point for anything in our lives except the lesson brought to us by our parents. My mom has taught me so many things and helped me develop my core values as the person I am today. She taught me about morals and how to take care of myself. Even told me and my siblings we all have bright futures ahead of us and has been there for us along the way. She's always there to lend an ear in times of trouble, she's always there to give advice and comfort when it's needed. There is so much that I have gone through that she has been there for me both younger and older. I remember the times where she would read me, my brothers, and sisters bedtime stories before tucking us in. All the times she's prepared us meals everyday, the time she would spend with us and the effort she would put in to go above and beyond for us out of pure love and appreciation for us. I will admit not everything is always so perfect though either we've all had our moments of being ungrateful. Usually it comes in the form of highschool. When we hit that rebellious stage of not wanting to listen to anyone but ourselves. I've been there and so have many others, but after all of that I realized without her or my dad none of what I have would be possible. I told myself I should be more grateful to them than anyone else because they were the ones that gave me a chance. Sure it could have just been a thing of nature, but instead the environment that they gave me has allowed me to be the best I can be and be grateful for it. Moms put in so much time and effort into raising us as kids and I see it more and more as time goes on the ungratefulness being developed in these future generations. It's a trend that I will not be a part of but instead take the things that I have learned from my mom and dad and use those lessons and values to thank them and appreciate all moms and dads for doing their best and allowing us the greatest gift of all a chance to live and to have them as an example of how to be. We all need a role model in our lives nature can only do so much for us. We run the cycle of life but if we just did that we would only learn so much and that's it. Having someone to be the example for us is the greatest gift we can receive because we become even better ourselves from the lesson and advice passed down generation after generation so that we won't have to repeat the mistakes of the past and do new and amazing things. Mom you are my coach and teacher, you a great advisor and leader, You have always been there for me and will always, as will I be for you. There are no other words I can use to express all the things that you've done for me, my brothers, and sisters but we love you and appreciate you from the bottoms of our hearts.
By Jeff Reichman3 years ago in Families
Physiology Comes First
Emotions, attitude, and mood have a lasting affect on how “good” of a day anyone can have. Some believe they just happen and seep out of the woodwork naturally. This is a very true statement, they do come very naturally, but can also be influenced to occur more or less often and how certain attitudes come to pass depending. It can hinge on a variety of different sources. One that tends to be overlooked is an individual's physiology. It’s very easy to miss because most people don’t consciously look for it, it’s “Just something that happens” in their eyes. Physiology is the biological study of the normal functions of living organisms. To put it plainly, behaviors, tendencies, or physical state in that moment in relation to the mood or attitude that is about to be present. I say “about to be present” because the way your body acts physically in any given situation influences how we react to the emotions about to be present. For example, if something inconvenient happens to an individual, it could cause a bunch of negative emotions to rise in your overall attitude. Then the physiology comes into play. Your body physically and mentally “prepare” to be in said bad mood. You may slouch your shoulders, sigh, or mutter under your breath, could be any number of things. If someone were wanting to alter or change their mood to avert the negative, a change in one's state is in order. Do the opposite of the negative or something different from the expected reaction. So don't slouch or sigh, or say you feel tired. Do something like fix your posture, yell to pump yourself up. One I’ve heard from others as well is bark. “If you saw someone doing that, how would you feel? You’d probably think that person is crazy or weird. When in reality you’re doing something good for yourself to alter the mood that could potentially present and avoid a negative experience for yourself. Being able to be self aware of your emotions and the states you are in at given times is key to bringing the best out of a situation. Moving yourself out of your comfort zone, like the barking mentioned earlier is also a good exercise to push yourself for something new and better. Discomfort can be one of the greatest learning processes, because you are guaranteed to get something new every time. You’ll notice as well that you approach situations differently and your overall demeanor will be different as well. Another example that everyone can probably relate to, is getting out of bed in the morning. Sometimes you just don’t feel like getting out of bed. You’re comfortable and telling yourself just five more minutes and so forth. So since your body is in the physical state to get ready for sleep, those thoughts and functions then come into play and you go back to sleep. On the flip side you just need to move. If you move around or jump up out of bed and stretch, it will make you more revitalized and energetic to proceed with the day's events. A way to practice this besides pushing to get out of your comfort zone, is asking two questions to yourself about every mood you are in. First is “Why?” if you ask yourself, “why am I sad?’ or “why am I feeling so good?” it helps you to be able to consciously recognize and acknowledge the physiology behind the small things you do, like body language, how you articulate your words, and overall how you cope with any given situation. The second question is “What can I learn from this?” Learning lessons through trial and error is what we as human beings do. Many take failures as they come with the negative mental approach, but if you say, “I failed” and don’t try again you’ll leave feeling defeated and down in the dumps. Once again though if you ask, “What can I learn from this?” You now are brought into a state of curiosity and actively think of how you can improve from that experience. Pretty much the one we've all heard about learning from our mistakes. Preferably the word mistakes should be failures. Mistakes are things that we did wrong and sometimes we do things right and still don't succeed. This is all part of the mental side of physiology where there is a negative there is potentially always a positive side present that we don't usually identify unless we examine ourselves for it during that point in time. Another way of looking at it is, it's creating a filter that we can practice and overall be the best we can be every second of our lives. If the filter is built off negativity it will spiral out of control and hold us down. People essentially become the thing holding them back when you just need a change in your physical state to give you that boost mentally as well. Would you rather be trapped in a prison in your own mind that is so draining and boring or become the best version of yourself possible, all you need is a little tweak in your life and it can make all the difference. Remember, physiology Comes first and the mood and attitude are influenced by that as they follow.
By Jeff Reichman3 years ago in Motivation
Probability Exceeds Possibility
Luck is an intriguing concept. The random chance of the odds being your favor in any given circumstance whenever opportunity strikes. This idea was beheld by those around me but never indulged itself to be present for me, I guess I shouldn't have expected much of a random force that is likely a false superstition. As mysterious and questionable it’s existence was in my life, I still treat it as though it was its own entity capable of complex cognition. Describe it to myself as though it was toying with me, laughing at me, finding every pleasure in my suffering while making the existence of others, “Sooo great!” I just gave in one day. I decided no need for a stupid unknown force to give me help. I will accept my fate in this world, become another cog in the machine that is society. A mindless drone,working my life away to create my own future, even if it meant working half my life. I was willing to do it.
By Jeff Reichman3 years ago in Families