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Beholding a sentiment: "Amidst the smoke and flames of existence, we endure life's tribulations, eventually grasping that all agony can be assuaged only by oneself."

Being human, we're destined to endure numerous hardships and pains.

Yet the glimmer of hope in life is invariably bestowed by oneself.

In such a juncture, you must carve out tranquility within, learning to hearken to your past selves.

Respond to them, accept them, and connect with them; as you commence acknowledging yourself, the wounds shall heal gradually on its accord.

Accept your past self

Throughout our expansive lives, each of us harbors regrets large and small.

Those incapable of letting go grasp persistently at the past, tormenting themselves with past hurt.

However, this attitude doesn't alleviate what has transpired.

On the contrary, it forces one to live the remainder of their life steeped in agony.

The protagonist Harold of 'A Pilgrimage of One's Own,' had an excelled child named David. But when he was eighteen, David committed suicide.

Their lamentation of losing a child immersed the couple in profound remorse, both drowning deep in self-blame: "If I had paid more attention to David and knew about his depression earlier, things might have turned out differently." "If I had embraced him when I found out about his addiction to alcohol and drugs, things would've been better."

Immersed in this boundless sorrow, the couple's affection towards each other also dwindled. Until Harold embarked on a solitary journey; both started to miss each other, realizing they haven't loved or cared for someone in their vicinity in a long time.

At this juncture, they finally chose to let go of the past and pursue forgiveness.

In the end, they reconciled by the sea, once again interweaving their hands.

Each person in this world experiences pain and regret. When the outcome cannot be changed, those with formidable hearts do not cling onto their pain but rather readily let go.

Heal your past self

It's been said, there are no unscathed people in the world, only hearts ceaselessly healing. Living a lifetime is inherently a journey of strengthening oneself amidst torment and hardship. After getting hurt, we must not wallow in self-pity but rather quietly mend ourselves, to awaken the power within.

The author Thoreau, prior to his 28th birthday, faced many adversities and was downtrodden by life. He contributed articles to a magazine for many years without receiving any recognition from the editors. He volunteered to be a town inspector and surveyor but never managed to secure a public office; he confessed his love to a girl who turned to another's embrace; even his brother who he once depended on, passed away due to a severe illness.

This chain of events plunged Thoreau into immense pain, becoming ill for three months as a result. After his recovery, he decided to change his life and retreated to the banks of Walden Pond with an ax. In simple days, he released all his resentment; during his time with nature, he facilitated the complete healing of his mind and body.

Ultimately, he collated his observations and insights into a book, producing the renowned 'Walden'.

Be grateful for your past self

A popular question often pondered: if you could reunite with your past self, what would you do? A highly endorsed response was: I would express gratitude to my past self who faced life's onslaught bravely.

When life's pressures surged like a tide, it was your past self who gritted their teeth and bore it all; when downtrodden by trials and tribulations, it was your past self who rescued you countless times from predicaments.

We owe our understanding today on how to wrestle difficulties and negotiate reality to our past selves. Perhaps, there still lie insurmountable obstacles to confront in the future. However, regardless of how arduous the path may be, it is only by pushing forward with hope in our hearts that we do justice to our past selves.

Our life is a constant struggle against setbacks, healing from injuries, before getting hurt again, and then healing all over again. Amidst this process, no one will extend a helping hand. You must acknowledge your injuries and grow while healing. There are no incurable wounds, no inescapable abyss.

Eventually, you will navigate through all storms, embodying a persona of independence and strength.