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You Are the Problem

Realizing Who You Are!

By D NicolePublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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You know what I'm talking about. We have all heard it at some point in our lives. Oh, she is so pretty, too bad it's not on the inside. Or she is such a nice girl, too bad she's not on the outside. That dress is so pretty but it looks so bad on her. Why would she wear that in public? Why do people we don't even know get to decide how we feel about ourselves? Why do family members and friend get to tell us whether we are beautiful on the inside or the outside? It is because we let them. We, ourselves, are the problem.

Wait! What? I'm not the problem for what someone else says or thinks about me. Well, no you're not. You can never control what someone else says or thinks, but you can control how it makes you feel. You are the only one who gets to choose how you feel or how you react. The problem today is we women and young girls stopped being confident in ourselves. We stopped listening to our own thoughts, our own beliefs. We let objects, like mirrors and magazines, tell us if we are beautiful. We let people on the TV, our friends, strangers, and even our family tell us whether they think we are beautiful.

It is all about approval. We need the approval to do something, say something, think something. Some people even allow others to decide when they can eat. We need approval on if we can wear that outfit or if that shade of fingernail polish is right. You are right. You do need approval, but you need your approval. If you want to wear the red dress with a pink cover up, go for it. If you want to eat three cheeseburgers in one sitting, do it. In a way, it is always about approval. We just need to learn that the approval comes from you and nobody else.

Now that you have your own approval, what do you do after? This is where your confidence comes in handy. You choose to wear the red dress with the pink cover up, but you don't leave the house. At home, you eat all you want, but the second you go out it's back to salads. Why? If you're comfortable in your skin and like how you look, then who cares what everyone else says? When you feel those eyes on your back, we have always decided they must be judging, but maybe they're not. You can choose how you react. If you know you look great and you feel great, then everybody will see it too. Choose to believe they are admiring you. Know that they like the way you look because you like the way you look.

Each person on this planet is unique in some way, and somewhere along the way we forgot that. We are all trying to be the same as someone else. You may not be a size 0, or wear make up the best, or have the best job. You may not even be a nice person compared to some. It doesn't matter. Do you believe you're nice? Do you believe you're beautiful? Only your opinion matters. Only your approval is needed. Sometimes, even admitting you're not the "standard pretty" but you're funny and you have your life together is enough. Be confident! Believe in yourself! Trust your judgment. Because in the end, the confidence you have in yourself is all that matters. That is what makes you who you are. And that person is always someone special.

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D Nicole

25. Love sleep. Love to read and write. I am outgoing and loud but can also be very shy. It just depends. Fully believe Everything in life is better in PINK!!!

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