Why are Black Women LATE to the Femininity game?

Why are Black Women LATE to the Femininity game? That is, If they ever arrive at all… Black American Women are seen as masculine, undesirable, aggressive, rude, and unattractive. Why is that? Black men nowadays love to tell black women that they need to be more feminine. They say women of other racial backgrounds and ethnicities are softer and more feminine and much more desirable. Is there any truth to that? If so, why?

As a community, black Americans have the lowest average median income level according to the

Census Bureau report in 2019. In 2010 the median net worth of black families was $4,900 compared to $97,000 for whites, and 27%t of blacks lived in in poverty, compared to the overall U.S. poverty rate of 15%

Shocking to say the least. Statistically, I might add, most people born into poverty never make it out. Why is all this information important? Because of what has traditionally been defined as femininity requires.

Real median household income by race and ethnicity, 2000–2019Femininity requires a woman to be in comfort and at peace. Femininity requires safety and protection. While black people are a minority in America, they overwhelmingly experience poverty at a much higher rate when compared to any other racial group. Why is that? Well, we can analyze that another time.

Since an overwhelming portion of the black population in America lives in poverty, it's safe to say they're living in areas with high crime rates. Scarcity breeds disparity and desperation calls for a means to an end. Black women are not protected in these dangerous, destitute communities and in fact, they are targets. Black women must always watch their backs, be on guard, and the people they share a community with can't be trusted.

As a black woman is maturing, she can't dress too traditionally femininely in her poverty-stricken neighborhood without being shammed and called fast by elders or being made a target by men and boys. Its completely normal for a pubescent girl to be interested in gaining attention of boys her age. However, the elders in these communities will shame and scold her from this male attention seeking behavior because it will make her a target. A target for boys seeking manhood through his female conquests and that may result in teen pregnancy which would perpetuate the cycle of poverty.

In these ghettos, black girls grow up not being able to trust the men around them who are selling drugs and pimping women out and doing God knows what else! They can't be sweet, trusting, or vulnerable without being taken advantage of and used. The femininity is socialized right out of them.

Let's say a black woman beats all the odds stacked against her like a lot of them do. Say she studies hard and gets a college degree due to a full scholarship awarded to her because to her hard work to achieve exceptional grades. Let's assume she makes it out of poverty. She will have to learn to be feminine. Not only will she have to learn femininity in order to fit in at college and in the upper classes of society, but she must also learn to be comfortable with it. Not only that, but the psychological effects of her turbulent past will remain with her. A lot of women that make it into the higher class, become more feminine and use it as a tool, unlike other women born into a higher class who most likely have been socialized into femininity.

Being a black woman comes with its own threats to femineity even if growing up disadvantaged wasn't her struggle. Not only is she a woman but she's black. In this racist patriarchal structure here in America, she will be disrespected, dismiss, undervalued, and underestimated for gender and her race. It's a double edge sword. So again, if she wants to be more traditionally feminine, she can't be. She must fight for her R-E-S-P-E-C-T! And that's what it's like for black American women. That's why black women are so assertive and strong. Black women are often late to the femininity game because they have to protect themselves. Black women are feminine, just in a way most don't take the time to understand.