Top 5 Habits High-Value Women Look For in Men | 2022

Are you a high-value woman? Odds are you may be. If you usually wake up on the right side of the bed, find yourself smiling or laughing often, feeling good most days, or experiencing increasingly frequent instances of enlightenment or intuitive nudges from within, you're likely already smirking.

If, however, you kind of sulk out of bed after sleeping twenty minutes past the three alarms you failed to hear, rush to get dressed and head off to a job you despise just to work hours with people you hate, have no time to smile or laugh because you have work to do, or constantly feel the weight of the entire world on your shoulders each day. Worry not. This is for you too.

Whether you're aware of your high-value status already or could use some gentle guidance or helpful tips on where to start, you have my word that when you've reached the end of this guide, you'll have felt the resonance of what you needed to hear deep in your gut.

Long gone are the days in which women are believed to be the weaker vessel, inferior to their male counterparts, or perceived to possess no true value apart from that of an insignificant sexual object or harlot.

Renowned theologist R.C. Blakes coins the term "queen-consciousness" in defining a high-value woman with strict standards, clear rules for dating/courtship, and a deep sense of self-love/-respect. These attributes are the foundation of who she is and, for this reason, are explicitly inexorable.

Contrary to popular belief, more than 86% of new-age women are, more and more, affirming the erroneous basis behind the belief of there being "no good men left". It’s simply untrue. From North America to Europe and back again, high-value men who are available & actively seeking a helpmate are plentiful but are, in like manner, constrained by the same flawed thought pattern convincing them high-value women are either a rarity or simply nonexistent; a concept that, of course, is totally inaccurate.

Concurrently, there's no denying the fact that "toxic" men—searching for broken women to use and throw away—are copious. It's time for a positive change.

Women are learning how to play the game by taking on the responsibility of accepting her current state of misguided "broken-consciousness" culpably driving their sense of bitterness, rage, and inner-pain, and—rather than placing blame, succumbing to victimhood, or continuing to justify this noxious state of mind—are ending generational curses, releasing limitations, and embracing & lifting one another to heights where they can now tap into their queen-conscious mindset.

The outcome is a fresh door of opportunity inviting into her life only that which she desires and approves of. That is how it should be.

Once the concept is grasped, these new high-value women are quickly flooded with a myriad of life improvements as a result of choosing to shift their beliefs and stepping into their queen-conscious mind.

Positive changes ranging from more success in varying entrepreneurial endeavors and deeper satisfaction in relationship(s)/marriage(s) to a more profound sense of self-love and remarkably fresh & creative methods for achieving a renewing & replenishing sexual experience on her own which serves as the basis for keeping her proverbial cup full are all hers.

It’s easy to see why these women stepping out onto the scene, fiercely reborn & intimidatingly courageous, are clearly distinguishable from others as the cream of the crop treasured assets eagerly sought out and pursued by high-value king-conscious partners.

As such, the new high-value queen-conscious woman's attention to potential suitors has become substantially more narrowed. Her focus includes only those king-conscious partners who align with her future & plans for her life by aligning with his own Higher Consciousness.

With this being her intention, a new upstanding standard of men begins noticing her because she is no longer trapped in a state of broken consciousness. She now embodies the qualities a high-value man appreciates in a woman.

All other people and situations in life who fail to match her newfound energy falls by the wayside and the high-value woman is never at a loss in these instances for she now recognizes her upraised value and accepts that anything or anyone who bypasses her at this juncture is simply misaligned with her vision for her life, and that's always viewed as a win to the high-value woman.

The queen-conscious mindset is easily taught (once understood and practiced). It’s available and applicable to all who seek it. A self-aware woman—after developing the spirit of discernment wrapped in the queen-conscious mindset—can confidently & selectively sift, from the lot, a suitable partner she is proud to share her life experiences with long-term.

She is no longer a victim or prey. She is the royal tigress; unerring in becoming the very best version of herself and expects the equivalent from her partner; a high-value partner.

So, what sort of character traits does a high-value woman seek? I’ve compiled an easy-to-understand short list detailing the Top 5 Non-Negotiable Behaviors only a prized High-Value Woman finds within a potential life partner.

With input from several of the most notable queen-conscious women in North America, the following numbered points were curated to emphasize the powerful elements common to the high-value woman’s mindset.

This basic starting guide is for any woman who is:

• sick of settling for incompatible partners or one-sided situationships that drain her energy but offer no replenishment,

• fed up with low-quality, emotionally unavailable, and spiritually broken guys hurting or mishandling her,

• desiring a more meaningful connection with not only herself but a partner who thirsts for knowledge of who she really is & how their union or cohabitation can enhance and enrich the life of the other,

• struggling with feelings of guilt or grief resulting from a trauma, terminated relationship or a partner who has ghosted her (gone radio silent) or walked away from her, and;

• desiring to be more in touch with her queen-consciousness & self-awareness.

If you can relate to one or more of the aforementioned situations then this information is for you. You can immediately implement this vetting process into your life as a means of determining a man's true intentions & suitability, which will put you back in the driver's seat of your life.

Your newfound self-confidence will be the transformative component that shifts the caliber of individuals you're approached by while also gifting you the wherewithal to select the most ideal candidate for yourself. After all, you must first realize that the concept of karma means you attract who you are. The same is true in attracting a partner.

You'll also begin to personify the competence to teach these fundamental concepts to your close friends, colleagues, family members, daughters, or associates as a means of guiding them toward their own queen-consciousness. The result is an unshakeable community of dynamic women who, hereafter, lead happier lives, enjoy longer-lasting commitments (including marriage if it is desired), and experience more fulfilling encounters as a whole.

High-value women have freed ourselves from limiting beliefs that no longer serve us. We feel secure showing up in life as our authentic selves. But most importantly we’re effectively raising the bar, requiring men to heal from their past hurts/trauma, improve their personal growth, and step into their own king-consciousness prior to courting us.

We require them—by no longer portraying ourselves as the broken, easy, ratchet girls they’ve come to expect—to revere women as the magnificent gifts of God that we inherently are. And it takes a high-value man—exercising both firmness and gentleness in handling the high-value woman with the utmost care—to not only recognize the instant he encounters her but be masterfully familiar with the proper way to manage his investment in her.

So, without further ado, let's dive into the 5 components a high-value man must possess before a high-value woman considers him as an appropriate addition to her life, beginning with:

1. Self-Control/-Confidence

As defined by our celebrated panel of high-value women, self-confidence & self-control are “a package deal”. One without the other is unacceptable to the high-value woman. The differentiating factor is in a man “knowing & actualizing confidence within himself” while also being in “complete control not only of his thoughts and words but also in his emotions & behavior”. Ask yourself how he behaves in the following situations:

• how does he speak to and of his mother or other female family members?

• what is the nature of his interactions with female colleagues, associates, or friends? Is he flirtatious and inappropriate or is he kind and friendly without overstepping boundaries?

• is he open and expressive about his conversations and interactions with other women in a matter-of-fact way or is he secretive about the other women in his life?

What you observe will give insight into the caliber of man you're dealing with. A king-conscious man will “innately be ever-aware of the thoughts he permits his mind to focus on, the words he chooses to speak or withhold,” and “the manner [or tact] in which he responds to other people and circumstances in life”.

His confidence is palpable whenever others are in close proximity to him. Though other women may flirt with him he remains composed, dignified, and sure of himself in comfortably redirecting her back to her place.

A high-value woman never has to step in to defend her King. And a King will never permit himself to purposelessly entertain women he has no future plans for nor will he allow anyone to speak ill of the object of his affection. This, when it's an innate and genuine characteristic, is remarkably attractive to a high-value woman.

Lack of control over himself or a diffident constitution is a huge red flag to the queen-conscious woman because she “possesses the keen awareness that a man who is incapable of controlling himself and his emotions or who is appallingly short on confidence within himself and his abilities is tragically imbalanced & broken; a burden, who quickly becomes an unlikely candidate” for ruling at the side of a queen-conscious woman”.

A high-value woman “never settles for potential”. She seeks harmony with a partner who mirrors the values and traits she embodies for herself as a Queen. For this reason, she is “never lonely or desperate for a relationship" and she, under no circumstances, "chases a man down”.

Instead, she stands firm in her belief that she is the prize. Whether he walks away or remains, her validation is inside of her. She “prepares & grooms herself for the opportunity to be pursued and courted by a king-conscious man who proves to be worthy of her hand”.

She is “severely selective in this process” because in her mind "her investment in anything of value ought to feel like a 'hell yes' prior to reaching a decision". Anyone unwilling to earn the privilege of her affections is deemed as “unworthy” and “easily forgettable”.

2. (Demonstrated) Ambition

“Too often women who lack a high-value constitution are swindled by broken men" who lead her on with their 'gift-of-gab' & wordy proclamations of what they're 'about to do' or 'want to do' but who "fail to display a true demonstration of this ambition”.

Her good heart just won't let her walk away from so much potential. And that is this woman's downfall because she is not aware that a king-conscious man would win her heart in ways she can only imagine if she would only dedicate time to grooming herself into the high-value woman she inherently is.

Any adult man who is “absent of dreams, goals, or plans for his own life” (particularly if those plans exclude the woman he is pursuing) and who is “not actively taking productive steps toward achieving said dreams, goals or plans” will concurrently be “incapable of fitting a queen-conscious woman into his lifestyle long-term”.

Lackadaisical men who frequently reach out to a woman as a response to boredom or who strive only to take from a woman (e.g. inquiring about what she brings to the table, asking her for money/favors, or is unstable in his own life first) rather than “stepping into his inborn masculine role as the Provider and Protector" will stick out like a sore thumb to the queen-conscious woman causing her to cross his name off her list of potential candidates.

Her observance (or “vetting”) of him during the courtship phase will “always eventually reveal his true intentions” and she has zero qualms with “instantly releasing anyone from her life who intends to mislead or deceive her with manipulation, gaslighting, or dishonesty, regardless of how far along the path they have traveled”. She carefully measures her list of requirements against all candidates expressing a romantic interest in her and promptly dispatches any & all who fall short.

A high-value woman's time is important to her. She is “confident in her ability to stand on her own and will only invite the strongest contender to share in life experiences with her” provided he is “equally as focused on his own personal growth, self-care, success, and happiness”.

Only under this condition of successfully demonstrating a certain level of actual ambition in his own life for a specified period of time will it become clear that she should consider him a viable candidate in moving to the next requirement.

3. Platonic Friendship First

Many may sneer at this seemingly old-school concept of developing a platonic friendship prior to the romantic relationship but this is non-negotiable to the high-value woman. The misguided logic of placing sex before friendship or entering relationships without first investing the time required to know what the other desires on a platonic level is buy-and-large the product of toxic beliefs comprised of a misplaced irrational fear of losing a man if you do not give yourself over to them sexually “before they’ve successfully earned it”.

The queen-conscious woman recognizes her “body is a temple and her sex is a sacred & magical gift that she gives only at her discretion”. Anyone who "pushes the idea of sex too early" or who "never fails to bring a fairly normal conversation back to a sexual topic" is “unworthy of her". Period.

The king-conscious man will lean more into building a platonic friendship with her prior to ever hinting at anything sexual because he perceives her as a quality investment of his time and resources. This is who will “grasp her attention”.

In order to determine if she is an ideal fit in the long-term plans of her love interest, the high-value woman must first discern if she “enjoys being in his presence and sharing quality time with him” before sharing the bed with him. Remember, the high-value woman never loses anyone who hasn’t proven they desire to share equally in life experience with her.

So if he walks away once he becomes aware of the increasingly more challenging components he must conquer prior to ever being included in sexual activities with her, he does her a favor in further confirming his desire for a more bottom-shelf partner, whom the high-value woman is not.

A man who is incapable of detailing the nature of his long-term plans for a woman he has eyes for but who can expressly identify every nuance of his sexual desire for her is one who “can never win the affection of a queen-conscious woman” since he is predominantly led by his carnal nature and not his heart & soul.

Building a friendship in the initial stages is critical in offering an environment where the two can focus on engaging in platonic activities together (during daylight hours), finding topics of interest to discuss at length, and feeling one another out emotionally so that developing a deep emotional connection becomes possible.

After all, sex is far more satisfying when it is enjoyed between people who already share deep emotional ties with one another. High-value men regularly admit to proposing to and marrying their ‘best friend’. The only way this is possible is through “developing and building that friendship first”.

The understanding that our physical bodies and carnal needs will inevitably change with age is the true basis of cultivating this friendship. It's a long-term investment and worth it.

When physical changes occur later on in life and sex proves to be difficult at times, “there will still exist between the two a strong foundation and incorporeal tethers” which cements their bond one to the other; a bond that lasts a lifetime.

Sex is an ethereal act only proffered to a suitor who has been chosen as a partner when he has first proven himself to be an ideal fit for the high-value woman in a platonic sense.

Love is spiritual. Sex is physical. When the two unite in harmony, the result is orgasmic (literally). Because of its power, “if sex enters the picture too soon both parties are aware of the cataclysmic emotional upset it can cause and neither are willing to gamble away the probability of losing the asset they've found in the other" over something they realize is worth the wait.

When viewed in this way, sex becomes a special treat or reward that is eagerly anticipated and deeply cherished by the high-value man because it confirms 3 key concepts to him:

1. She's not foolishly permitting numerous random men to enter her temple.

2. She values, respects, and honors herself; characteristics he realizes will be conveyed to his children (now, if applicable, and) in the future.

3. She is unwavering in her disallowance of any sexual behavior or conversations until she's absolutely comfortable, however long it may take.

This isn't to say sex is bad because sex is actually a critical component to a joyous and fulfilling relationship. The idea is to recognize that, of course, there will be a strong sexual tension initially when two vibrationally harmonious individuals find one another but to exercise some self-control while they ensure there is a non-sexual connection which is capable of continuing to draw them one to another should sex no longer be a feasible factor in their lives.

4. Time Apart

Many women who are weighed down by a broken consciousness groan at this concept primarily because they've “not been taught the benefits of spending time apart from their partner in order to focus on improving herself”. The queen-conscious woman “thrives best when she has frequent opportunities outside of her partner to focus on the things she enjoys”.

Too often women push aside their interests, friends, hobbies, and self-care in an effort to accommodate and please a man, only to overcrowd and cling to him while he is not reciprocating. She empties herself & her life just to include him but he never does the same. Why? Because this is a huge turn-off to the high-value man since it reveals that she lacks a queen-conscious mindset.

Uncomely behavior such as this effectively “exposes her insecurity that she is nothing apart from him and possess a low sense of self-value”. This only serves to drive the high-value man “to take a step back or, even worse, ghost her” only to end up with a different woman who demonstrates high-value qualities.

A high-value woman is fully aware of the advantages available to her in dedicating a good chunk of her time to focusing on building herself and engaging in the activities she enjoys (e.g. spending time with family or friends, watching her favorite shows, taking bubble baths, tidying her home, reading a good book, or completing business projects).

It's common knowledge that we're all beautifully different with dissimilar interests and aspirations in life. For this reason, no couple will enjoy all of the same activities. This is why “maintaining autonomy, even while inside of a relationship, is important to the high-value woman” and notably impressive to high-value men because it "exhibits her independence and seriousness in improving, beautifying, & prioritizing self-care within her own realm" outside of him. He finds this highly attractive and causes him to desire to be a part of her realm.

Now, of course, it's important to love and support the activities, people, & sentimental components of your partner's life, and there will be plenty of time for that. But this is no indication of an obligation to:

A. place your own interests, friends/family, and responsibilities on the back-burner in order to partake of or participate in these things alongside him.

B. pressure him to join you in every single activity you enjoy or force yourself to pretend to be into the things he's into.

The high-value woman will “encourage and commonly initiate time apart so she has the opportunity to return her focus to her business pursuits, her interests, nurturing her friendships, and fortifying her personal growth”.

Her love & respect for herself far exceeds any desire to please someone else. She's keenly aware that being sure-footed on her own is the only way to remain balanced, level-headed, and desirable within & without the relationship.

The queen-conscious woman is “never dependent on her partner for anything and vice versa”. Her desire for his presence in her life is just that: a desire. Her time apart from her mate is time for herself and this is “sacred to her”. She can only respect & submit to a king-conscious man “who honors, understands, and mirrors this behavior himself”.

Solitude is therapeutic. When a high-value woman has time to dedicate to herself frequently, she “consistently improves herself” and, as such, “becomes more purposefully enigmatic, and priceless to the high-value man who is pursuing her”.

A high-value woman "never reveals all of herself" to anyone upfront. She will deliberately divvy out bite-sized portions of herself at her own discretion over time and subsequently observe in silence how the man either appreciates the opportunity to continuously pursue knowledge of who she is as time passes or loses interest and moves on with his life.

A man who never asks revealing questions or engages in long conversations with her or who causes her to feel rushed during this courtship phase is clearly expressing disinterest in knowing her worth and is, therefore, unworthy of this high-value woman.

5. Love

This component appears last on the list because, to the queen-conscious woman, it is the “most important characteristic” in a potential partner. Without this component being present to tie the other four together, a man will “fail miserably at achieving an audience with a queen-conscious woman”.

A high-value woman is walking, talking, existential “liquid love”. She “cultivates a deep-seated love for herself” that essentially “fills her cup to the extent that it overflows and positively impacts all persons she encounters and permits into her realm”. She effectively becomes a “coveted relic” in the eyes of a high-value man. Love is the only power in the world capable of healing humankind and transforming lives. It is the highest of treasures to the high-value woman.

For this reason, she is certain to shy away from attitudes of “bitterness, jealousy, wrath, or hatred”. She doesn’t entertain gossip and happily walks away from all drama. This woman, instead, “exudes copious amounts of understanding, compassion, professionalism, nurturability, sensuality, and classiness”.

She is kind but firm. Composed & serious but playful & joyful at heart. Soft yet strong. Private but honest & expressive. Purposive in her verbosity but always concise and clear. She maintains balance in the pitch of her voice (she never speaks above a conversational tone) and permits no one outside of herself to control her emotions or responses. She knows these to be under her own control and she manages them with grace.

She smiles and laughs often. There’s an “addictive calmness in her demeanor and a delightfully balanced poise about her, all budding from the love glowing deep within her bosom” which is readily perceived by high-value men.

In the time she dedicates to herself, she prioritizes maintaining her equilibrium. Her sense of inner-peace is awe-inspiring to a high-value man and he “finds pleasure and fun in working toward proving he is an estimable match to her continued blessing in his life”.

This being the case, a man who is “loveless or emotionally unavailable is forever invisible to the high-value woman”. Her scrupulous tastes only allow for a high-value man who openly embraces and exudes love in all things.

A man who not only capable of loving himself, others, her, and their future children but who also possesses the capacity to receive love is one who will certainly speak her love language.

When he is wholeheartedly capable of expressing & accepting unconditional love, it instantly sets him apart as “the most powerful being in the universe” to her.

Only when the power of the high-value woman and the high-value man unite is their collective impact “liken unto tectonic plates shifting the earth off its axis”. Individually, they possess tremendous power. Together, they transmute this collective power into an unstoppable force; a true power-couple “whose magnificence, the entire Universe surrenders to”.

Conclusion

You see, a queen-conscious woman is unapologetically selective because she is all too familiar with the feeling of being abused, underappreciated, and insignificant to spiritually broken & emotionally void men. This has caused her to desire more.

Consequently, the only satisfaction feasible to her at this point is in aligning with her Higher-self first and, subsequently, a king-conscious man who embodies all of the aforementioned traits, guaranteeing he's progressing in life harmoniously with her and they can have lots of fun adventures together.

It's chess, not checkers. Don't hate the players, learn the game.