The Dilemma of the Modern Woman

When I said the dilemma of the modern woman, I did not mean how she is dressed, but the dilemma of the contemporary woman with me. I mean, you. More or less, we are all in the same contemporary social pot, which contains its specific ingredients, some even unique.

Structurally, we are all the same. We are all women, but not all know what society wants from us. Let us conform, let us rebel, let us be beautiful, let us be inventive and bold, let us be diligent and good, let us be good and tender, let us be forgiving, let us be conquerors, let us be fighters, let us be strong…

There are so many which the social demands of a woman that too often she no longer knows who or what she is. I mean, woman.

Being a woman today often means being confused or caught up in a struggle that you admit was not yours after years of hard work.

Being a woman today means not being sure if you are the one who has to have the same skills as the man to hunt the mammoth in the wild or the one who just cooks it. Because it's not, most of us do both.

If you are already 35 years old, then it is clear that you have to take the problem of wrinkles and extra pounds seriously and not because you are afraid that your husband will not like you anymore, but because you are afraid of your younger sisters: women up to 30 years old.

You are tired and overwhelmed, but you are struggling with your inner strength, and you are ruthless because you are required to be strong. Some of us are even proud of how strong they are and how many things they can do in a day, even if we still carry the label of "weak sex."

To pay your bills, drive a car, wear office clothes, have lunch alone at a restaurant, wear a big metal watch in your right hand, pay with a card, and imitate as well as you can what it means success for a man.

But in the evening, you wonder why there is no one to give you the affection you need - because you are a woman - even if you are not alone in the house.

To sacrifice, to put yourself in second place - not, in 20th place, to give up, to compromise, to suffer, to long, to forgive impermissibly for a long time, to wait, to forget, to allow, to be silent… - that at the end of your life you will be amazed that no one has erected a statue for you, that those you raised have gone to live their lives and all you have accumulated are years and years of frustration, of anger, non-fulfillment, and unhappiness.

And you look around and console yourself by noticing that you are not alone - now, at this age, the other women have become your sisters again.

To learn to be indifferent, to show superiority, to be detached from others, to pursue your goals, to step on other souls, to command, to make noses, to manipulate the emotions of others, to laugh at other women and, in principle, to do almost everything related to the behavior of an animal whose survival is threatened.

Often disoriented, we women take on these roles and become involved in living them as if this were our entire identity. But we forget that these ways of being have been inoculated for us, or we have adopted them ourselves, believing that this is how we will cope.

In reality, too few of us manage to live the reality of our gender identity. And this is a loss and, at the same time, the reason why so many women are unhappy.

Through her gender identity, a woman perceives and processes information primarily through emotions. A woman must learn, or re-learn, to understand what she feels, why she feels what she feels, and how to act to resolve her emotion.

Because of this ability, which is unique to us, we women have intuitive power, creative power, and transformative power. A woman well connected to what she feels is a woman deeply connected to the environment around her.

The ability to carry information inside and process it emotionally in advance gives women the most valuable tool for survival. It's like you're always one step ahead.

But to have full confidence in what you feel and why you feel what you feel, you must first become aware of the cognitive layers that cover your communion with feeling, the influences of early education, and socio-cultural ones.