Men Are Trash

Men, you guys are trash. Sorry, but you just are. The thing is, you're all different types of trash. What do I mean by that? Well I'm glad you asked.

Some men are trash, know they're trash, and wanna stay trash because they think it's cool. There's little to no hope of changing those men. Ladies, you just gotta chalk that up as a loss and avoid.

Some men think they were trash, but since they voted for Hillary and wear a "this is what a feminist looks like" shirt, all of a sudden they're not trash. That's the "male feminist" trash. They use feminism's language as an attempt to get in women's pants. They're abusive in their private lives, but White Feminism lets them cook because "OMG, they believe women should vote!" To be honest, they're the trashiest trash of all. Stay away from those men at all costs.

Then there are the men who know they're trash, but they try to actively work against being trash. They're trying to reduce, reuse, and recycle themselves into something useful. This is rare, but it happens.

While we're talking trash—men, do remember that women are not your trash collectors. Look to other men for that job. Women got enough stuff to deal with. We can't be expected to clean y'all up, too. There are men doing the work. You just gotta look.

I know some women will push back against this because they've gotten used to the trash collector role and think it's their place. They'll also push back because "OMG, you're a misandrist!" Nah son. Misandry is a joke.

I also know a plethora of men will push back against this saying that "well, if a man said women are bitches, you would be mad!" Well, yes, I would be mad. Wanna know why? It's because of the power dynamics at play.

Here's the thing. Men call women bitches or trash all the time and get little to no push-back 95 percent of the time. Just because you see someone get lit up on social media, that doesn’t mean the same happens offline. Normally offline (and online, if we're being completely honest), a man will say some form of "women are bitches" and his boys (and complete strangers) will rally around him. Hell, that's a phrase you hear in some form or fashion in every other song on the radio. It's normalized at this point.

Also, we light y’all up for doing it on social media because misogyny (unlike misandry) is a thing and it kills. How many times in the past couple of years has a woman been maimed or killed for saying no to a man? Too many to count. Don't believe me? There's an entire blog about it. You may think it's just words, but it's so much more than that. Like I said before, it feeds into a misogynistic society that kills women.

Toxic masculinity is out here killing women and maiming men, and men are doing little to nothing about it. Toxic masculinity is like one of those weapons in RPGs that deals damage to yourself when you use it but it deals twice as much to others. Men don’t care about the damage dealt to themselves from using it until their health is critically low. Then they start yelling at the women they have been using it against, asking us why we didn’t warn them it was dangerous.

Women have been trying for years to get men to see how damaging traditional thoughts on masculinity are to men. I’ve seen the discussions on Twitter, on Tumblr, even offline.

We—women—have been having these discussions and have been trying to get you—men—to see how toxic masculinity has y’all messed up. You wanna know why “all men are trash" is the wave right now? We’re fed up! We’re tired of doing all the work and, at best, seeing no results, and, at worst, getting violent push-back.

So yeah, men are trash, and it’s about damn time y’all started collecting yourselves. It’s starting to smell. Sort your own stuff out for once. If you need a little help, by all means, ask. Just stop asking us to do all the damn work. We're tired.