FEMININITY

My favourite movie is memoirs of a geisha because my idea of transitioning into womanhood is being taught by older women about how to carry ourselves in different settings. From social settings, to intimate friendships, to romantic relationships, to career, marriage and into motherhood. There is a way that we can be taught how to activate our feminine sides as women to enable us to be effective and successful in the different areas of our lives. In this post I’ll first talk about the movie ‘Memoirs of a Geisha’ to illustrate the journey into womanhood.

*BACKGROUND*

The movie is about a girl called Chiyo and her sister, Satsu, who are sold by their poor fisherman father to be geishas in the big city, Kyoto. When they arrive in Kyoto, they are separated and the story highlights Chiyo’s journey in the Okiya (a geisha’s home, where she is raised and trained by the women who own the okiya). I’ve spoilt it enough, go watch it for yourself.

*END OF BACKGROUND*

What moved me about this movie was Chiyo’s journey into being a geisha. To me, it represented much more than simply learning to be an entertainer. Chiyo arrived at the Okiya in Kyoto when she was only 9 years old and when she came of age, 13, an older renowned geisha (Hatsumomo) from another Okiya visited hers, to offer herself to train Chiyo and groom her into the best Geisha that lived.

To me that symbolized the essence of womanhood, to nurture and teach the generations before us in the right way. It also symbolized the great need of the mother-daughter or mentee-mentor relationships. Ones that train and groom us, to prepare us for the world ahead of us.

Hatsumomo trained Chiyo in the different aspects of being a geisha. Brushing up on tangible skills in order to be valuable, skincare and feminine presentation skills, social skills, and last but not the least, the art of seduction. She was put into dance class, she learnt about fine arts, she was taught how to sleep like a lady and dress like a lady. By the time Chiyo was 15, she was well groomed for life.

Through this movie, I’ve learnt that if we are going to be feminine and high-value women. We ought to have mentors for every area of our lives to lead us, guide us, train us, correct us and teach us what is good, then we can pass that down to our own children or any other children that we mentor when we ourselves become fully grown women.

With all that said, welcome to the first post in the femininity series. I’ll be doing some breakdowns of different cultures to learn what they have to offer us, in order for us to grow into high-value women. My first advice to you is, make a plan and do an honest audit of where you stand, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Then write down goals for the type of woman you’d like to become, set an action and plan and let’s go!