Dating Has Ruined Women

The joke is that 2020 dating is ruined because of COVID. Now some argue better because of video chatting/getting to know one another better, but I argue worse because there are no hilarious first date fails and there is a massive lack of real fun. But I digress.

Dating has been awful since forever and I refuse to accept any other rhetoric. You essentially have to find someone who is willing to do the same- not more, not less, but the exact same amount of bullshit you are willing to do to feign adult existence. That is all it boils down to. People who run marathons aren’t attracted to couch potatoes. Sorry ‘bout it.

Also, what is the nude etiquette? Is it just an accepted part of online dating now? It almost feels expected. There is so much vulnerability among females we are slowly devaluing ourselves and making it easier for men to just be flat out pigs. I know some woman are empowered by nudes and enjoy sending them and I support both sides. But the pressure today is unreal and it’s hard because you feel like you’re competing with others.

Now this is not every woman, but I have quite a few instances of women’s tolerating straight up bologna from men. Men messaging other woman on dating sites only for that woman to be confronted by his girlfriend saying “I know you met him on a dating website, but he is my boyfriend and he has done this before but we are working on it.” Ma’am reality check, but the only thing your man is working on is other woman’s weaknesses and desire to be loved.

We accept such low cowardly bullshit just for the comfort of being with someone. We tear down other women in the hopes of rising up, only to fall flat.

I am a firm believer in praising other women and lifting them up so they realize their worth. Go support your local exotic dancer. Shit take your man with you if you have one! Ain’t nothing wrong with looking! Go give them support outside of the male experience. Let them know you see them working and getting their coin.

Tell another woman they look pretty, or compliment something they said or did. Compassion is key and it feels good to give compliments. Not only that but you never know how one nice thing could effect someone’s day. How do you feel when you get a compliment?

I genuinely feel that every woman should be empowered to fulfill and fight for their dreams- not be stuck in a position or become a perpetuated stereotype because of their gender. Be the change we want to see. We all know as women we have faced hardship because we weren’t’ viewed as strong and powerful.

We need to be the change we want to see. We need to come together and build each other up instead of tear one another down. I know this can be done. I will continue to make it my mission to support other women. I don’t want any of us to accept being treated poorly, and you shouldn’t either.