Being in a Military Relationship

First thing is first is that boyfriend/girlfriend or girlfriend/girlfriend or boyfriend/boyfriend relationships can be easy at times and really hard at other times. It goes the same when you are a civilian, and you are dating someone in the military. The the word civilian is what people in the military call people that aren't in the military. There are many rules and/or things to know that come with dating someone in the military (just like dating someone not in the military.)

The first rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that at someone point if you decide to live with this person, you most likely will have to live quite a distance away from your family. You might have to move away a lot too.

The second rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that the person that you are dating that is in the military, there will be days that they will love being in the military and there will be other days where they won't love it. When they are having those bad days, all you pretty much can do is be there for them and listen to them and give them advice because unless you have served at one point, you will probably won't know what they are going through.

The third rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that it times that you may really need them, they wont always be there for you but sometimes they can be.

The fourth rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that they will break tradition. Because they are in the military, they will most likely miss birthdays, anniversaries, celebrations, holidays, births, deaths, etc. So you can't try to get your hopes up for those type of things.

The fifth rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that your stress and anxiety level will be at all-time high. The reason for this is because you never know what's going to happen and so you are always worried, and because you are worried, you get really stressed. You may also receive a phone call one day from them and you may hear bombs or gun fire in the background or you may not hear from them for days or even weeks. So, you have to make sure you can handle all of that stress and anxiety.

The sixth rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that you may find yourself making grown-up decisions faster than “regular couples.” When you are dating someone in the military, you may find yourself asking yourself often when you guys will move in together, or when you guys are getting married, or if you guys will have kids sooner than you would have in any of your other relationships.

The seventh rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that you may have to pick/pack up and start over more often than you might like. You may get use to that after a while or you may not. You will probably have to be able to form new social circles wherever you go.

The eighth rule and/or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that you may not always fit in. When you are JUST DATING someone in the military, you may feel a little left out when you hang out with his friends because you’ll be thinking you are just the girlfriend.

The ninth rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that there is a lot of rules and sometimes they may apply to you too. These rules may be as simple as a dress code (some commissaries have really strict dress codes). Or you may post something on social media and you may accidentally post sensitive information and even if it was an accident you can still get into trouble. There are many rules that military people have to follow and some of them can spill into their personal lives.

The tenth rule or thing to know about dating someone in the military is that if you date someone in the military, fall in love and take the plunge you will have to be prepared for anything. You have to be prepared for new adventures, meeting new people, going/moving to new locations, and other things too. Sometimes what the military life throws at you, it can make you stronger, braver, more independent and give you a network of people all around the world.