Killing a beloved pet without the child's consent

Recently saw a video, mixed feelings:

A 7-year-old child came home from school and saw that the rabbit sent by his grandmother was slaughtered by his parents, and once broke down and cried.

The small hands carrying the rabbit crying heartbreaking look heartbreaking.

The same thing also happened to another family.

On September 18, a father, the two children a pet hairy crab to cook, not only that, but after cooking, the parents also fed the crab meat to the child's mouth.

The child is seen in the video, crying hoarsely while eating, and the dad is holding up his phone while recording the video and asking what the hairy crab tastes like.

It's hard to imagine what kind of parents would be so reckless as to trample, mock and squander their children's love and emotions, tear them to pieces and force them into their mouths.

Parental disrespect

is the biggest shadow of a child's childhood

Previously, several similar incidents have been reported in the press.

One day, the grandparents killed the child's beloved pet rabbit, and the child cried his eyes out, saying that he wanted to bury the rabbit so that he could be reincarnated as a human being in the next life.

A grandmother, afraid of dog bites, sold her granddaughter's dog of two years to a dog dealer for 10 yuan, and the girl cried so hard her voice was mute, while the grandmother grinned next to her.

The 5-year-old girl ate fish halfway through the meal and found that it was her pet fish, unable to accept the fact that her pet had died, bawling alone in her seat and saying to her mother, "It (pet fish) is my best friend."

However, her mother kept urging her to hurry up and take a bite, expecting the so-called "real fragrance scene" to appear.

Why are we so angry?

The reason boils down to two words: "respect".

In these examples, did the parents show even a hint of respect for their children? Not.

In the innocent world of children, even the smallest life, even a tree, or a flower, can talk and play for half a day, not to mention the small animals that spend time together.

These small animals from the moment they are "identified" by the child, it is not just an animal so simple.

They spend time together, accompany each other, and grow up with each other, in the hearts of children, small animals are playmates, friends who can talk about their hearts which is emotional support.

But all this is inadvertently "eaten up" by parents.

Many parents do not understand why children have such strong emotions for animals.

In this regard, the cognitive development theory of Piaget in the child psychology system that children between the ages of 2 and 7 years old are in the "pre-operational stage", one of the characteristics of this stage of children's thinking is "animism", will treat all the objects around as living beings.

For example, children will paint the sun with human features, will feed dolls, and children are more likely to empathize with small animals that are themselves living things.

Respect for life, reverence for the existence of every tiny life, but also identify with every love for life, this is the experience of life.

Rather than hands-on manipulation of life, death, and parting.

In these incidents, parents dispose of their children's beloved animals without their children's consent, which is not only a sign of disrespect but also brings unpredictable effects to the children and becomes an incurable "childhood shadow".

We all have many

Rabbits eaten by parents

Not only that, but many adults recall similar incidents as children and say that the damage will last a lifetime.

What's frustrating is that so many people say that parents never realize their mistakes and even talk about them as an after-dinner pastime when their children grow up.

Even ask the child back, why don't you laugh?

The adults themselves killed the child's innocent and friendly sprout and cruelly dragged the child into the cruel adult world quickly.

There are no children who are born to understand, but there are adults who are always self-righteous.

There is a question on the knowledge is, if your parents eat your pet, you will forgive them?

One answer is, there is no forgiveness, there is a thorn in the heart, is it?

This is a thorn in the side of the child for a long time.

One user posted a recollection of her mother's words and actions during her childhood.

Her mother killed the white rabbit she had raised for a long time while she was at school and made it into roast rabbit meat. When she came home and ate the rabbit meat without knowing it, her mother told her that the family had raised the white rabbit before and it was dirty and troublesome, so she killed it.

But to this day, my mother still doesn't see anything wrong with her actions back then, and even tells the story as a joke.

She said that this incident tormented her since childhood and made her have a strong sense of inferiority and guilt, the ridicule is still clear in her ears.

When she grew up, she couldn't feel comfortable loving anything external because her feelings were rightfully not tolerated by others and would be trampled on.

She was constantly plotting the death of the self that could not sustain its value.

Because the memories of early childhood also have an impact on the subconscious mind, it is deceptively harmful to the child.

So there will be guilt about the pet will also cause distrust of the family, and it will affect the future of the family.

There are two types of parents in the world

Those who treat their children as "personal belongings"

The other type does not

Jeremy Bentham, a famous philosopher, famously said.

"There are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide the world into two kinds of people, and those who don't."

And I think there are two kinds of parents in the world, those who treat their children as "personal things" and those who do not.

The most important characteristic of parents who treat their children as "personal belongings" is that their children are mine to raise as I like and to teach as I like.

They see and care for their children from the perspective of a parent.

A parent who knows how to respect the child will treat the child as an individual separate from the parents, treat the child as a person, give respect and necessary recognition, and also know how to think differently about the child.

A parent who knows how to respect the child, if the child does not want to wear a certain piece of clothing, they may patiently ask the child's reason, the reason is appropriate then to support.

A parent who knows how to respect their child, when faced with a child being bullied, will know how to listen to their child first, and even encourage their child to give solutions.

A parent who knows how to respect the child, if the child is ridiculed, can feel the child's sadness, timely protection of the child ...... in short, is "respect for the child's heart".

A truly wise parent knows how to respect the child's ideas, requests, and suggestions, as well as the child's talents, personality, and preferences.

This is the only way to better help and guide your child to grow into the ideal person.

Thankfully, there are many such wise mothers and fathers in our lives!

They don't despise it because it's a "fish"!

After their child's bunny passed away, they prepared a "shoebox" and "suona" for the bunny to send her off, just so their daughter would not be sad anymore.

Their approach to the death of a pet can be very funny and heartwarming.

Respect for children's "pets", action to instill in children the concept of valuing life, I have to say that the behavior of these parents is really awesome!

Children who grow up in an environment full of love and responsibility will not have poor quality, performance, and character in the future!

I hope that more parents in the world can see their children, see them as whole people, with their own emotions and inner world, and respect them.

Instead of waiting until one day your child closes the door to his or her heart and gives up interest in communicating with you, you come back and ask: Why won't your child say anything to me?

Education is an irreversible process.

A child who is not respected by his parents not only has no dignity but also cannot learn self-respect.

Parents who do not know how to respect them can cause deep damage to their children.

The famous author Carson Mecca once said the following.

The young minds of children are very delicate organs. A cold start can twist their minds into odd shapes. A wounded child's heart will shrivel up and remain as hard and as covered with deep grooves as a peach kernel for the rest of its life.

So, as parents, please take care of your children's young minds like the dewdrops on the flowers that are trembling and falling.

Less control, more respect, give your child some space to grow freely.

Only in this way, the child's mind can be effectively nourished, and the flower of life can bloom!