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How to maintain internal value and strength when dealing with women

By Rafaela's RaysPublished about a year ago 3 min read
Strong, confident men are sexy
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Internal value is about how much you value yourself. From woman's perspective, how can you value her, if you don't value yourself? How would you value the partnership your share, or the family you build together, if your don't have a strong foundation of understanding your own worth?

Here are some practical ways to demonstrate internal worth, especially in your dating interactions:

Maintain your standards: Instead of trying to convince women to like you, focus on evaluating if they meet your specific criteria. This approach shows that you value yourself and have a clear idea of what you're looking for in a partner.

Respond positively to insults: Develop the ability to perceive insults as compliments. When someone, including a woman, gives you a hard time, respond graciously and maintain your self-assurance. This demonstrates that you don't rely on others' opinions to define your self-worth.

Let go of the need for validation: When telling a story and interrupted or sidelined, don't feel compelled to continue or seek validation. Move the conversation forward without clinging to the need for approval. This showcases your confidence and lack of dependence on others' validation.

Practice active listening: When engaged in conversation, give the woman space to share her thoughts and experiences. Pause for a few seconds after she finishes speaking, showing that you genuinely value her words and are attentive to what she has to say.

Encourage her to talk: Aim for a conversation balance where she speaks more than you do. Show interest in her by asking open-ended questions and allowing her to express herself. This conveys that you value her opinions and experiences, and also gives you the opportunity to assess her worth.

Ask qualifying questions: Pose questions that encourage her to highlight her unique qualities. By showing genuine curiosity about what makes her stand out, you allow her to showcase her individuality without being arrogant or condescending.

Provide positive feedback: When she shares personal details or answers qualifying questions, respond with approval and make her feel comfortable. Avoid criticizing or putting her down. Even if you disagree with something, respond respectfully or shift the conversation to a different topic.

By incorporating these behaviors into your dating interactions, you demonstrate high internal value. Remember, it's about embracing your own worth without diminishing others, fostering positive connections, and creating an atmosphere of mutual respect and appreciation.

Internal strength refers to emotional resilience, stability, and ability to handle challenges with composure. It is sexy AF, because it demonstrates a sense of confidence, self-assuredness, and the capacity to navigate life's ups and downs effectively. Internal strength is different from cockiness because it is not about belittling others or asserting superiority. Instead, it reflects an inner resolve and inner peace that comes from being secure in oneself.

Here are some practical ways to demonstrate internal strength in your dating experiences:

Disagree respectfully: When you disagree with a woman, especially if you like her, let her know while maintaining respect for her views and opinions. By showing that you can disagree without being disagreeable or putting her down, you demonstrate internal strength and trustworthiness.

Remain non-reactive to other men: If you see her flirting with other guys, don't react or show jealousy. Instead, treat all other men as if they were her brothers, and remain nonchalant. This demonstrates that external events or the environment do not affect your emotions, and you take responsibility for your own emotional state.

Say "no" occasionally: In a relationship, assert yourself by saying "no" to her at least once a month. This shows that you are willing and able to set boundaries without always seeking validation. While balancing this with mutual compromise, it helps build long-term attraction and love.

Firmly address silly behavior: If she acts silly, gently and firmly let her know. By calmly checking her behavior without being harsh, you show that you can handle her emotional storms and remain cool.

Let her go if necessary: If she tries to leave or crosses a deal-breaker, let her go. Communicate your dissatisfaction without getting upset. Do not tolerate behavior that goes against your values. This demonstrates your self-worth and strengthens your attractiveness to other women.

Implementing these behaviors may initially be challenging, but with practice, they become easier and an integral part of your character. By embodying high internal value and demonstrating internal strength, you increase your attractiveness to women and boost your self-worth.

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