Why You Can Never Have True Romantic Love Without First Having Self-Love

I recently ended a relationship after being incredibly disrespected.

It was the last straw.

It was a crazy night of being yelled at over the phone while driving and trying to locate the man I was seeing at the time.

After being led on a wild goose chase, frantic, wasting gas, driving on a long, dark country road by myself in the middle of the night because he refused to give me his exact location…

Because he needed to teach me a lesson…

I decided it was over.

Truth be told, it should have been over because it wasn’t the first, second, or third time he had done something like this.

He had displayed this behavior several times before and I had made excuses for him each time.

So I picked up my self-esteem and what was left of my dignity and vowed I would never see or talk to him again.

I know it’s not easy out here trying to find love.

The process can be downright exhausting.

Meeting someone…

Getting your hopes up…

Letting your guard down…

Letting them in…

Only to be disappointed once again.

Sometimes the frustration can cause us to become desperate and to just accept anything…

Whatever comes our way, really.

But I just want to encourage you all and let you know that you are worth so much more than that.

I know sometimes it seems better to settle. You get tired of the process, get sick of being alone, and decide to just go with Mr. Right Now rather than hold out for Mr. Right.

It can seem like the right thing to do in the moment.

But unfortunately, when we decide to settle, we often end up being mistreated, belittled, and disrespected.

I honestly believe that when we settle, the other party can smell our desperation from a mile away.

They use the weakness and the insecurity against us.

And it just leads to a miserable situation…

A situation that is way more miserable than being alone.

But it’s honestly better to be alone than to be in a miserable situation for appearance’s sake.

From a spiritual aspect, it’s a test from the universe.

The universe is always testing us.

We say we want a great relationship with a great person…

Someone kind, loving, caring, and with a good spirit and a good heart.

We say we want someone that sees the best in us and wants the best for us.

But sometimes the universe will send us the opposite as a test to see if we truly want the thing that we say we want.

But when we accept less, then we’re communicating a clear message to the universe that we don’t deserve or feel worthy of better.

So if you truly want more, and if you truly know that you’re deserving of more, it’s time to choose better.

But you must first truly know and feel that you are deserving of better.

So in the meantime, work on loving yourself and building up your self-worth and your self-esteem.

You can start by repeating self-love affirmations daily in the mirror while telling yourself how great you are.

And as you begin to treat yourself better, you’ll be sending out a signal that you are worthy of the best and ultimately that is what you will receive.

And it is definitely what you deserve.

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