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WHY MEN DELAY GETTING MARRIED

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By Ejike OkoriePublished 4 months ago 3 min read
WHY MEN DELAY GETTING MARRIED
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In a world where the institution of marriage is highly valued, it is often observed that men tend to delay getting married. The reasons for this hesitation are multifaceted and vary greatly among individuals. While some men might be eager to embark on the journey of matrimony, others grapple with fears, insecurities, and personal circumstances that hold them back from making this commitment.

Fear, also known as "marriage phobia," is a significant factor that prevents many men from taking the plunge into married life. The weight of financial responsibilities that come with marriage can be intimidating for some. They worry about providing for their spouse and the additional expenses that come with raising children. The emotional responsibilities that accompany marriage can also be daunting, as they grapple with the idea of expressing love daily, maintaining open communication, and managing potential conflicts. Some men may fear marriage due to negative experiences they have witnessed, such as bitter divorces or unhappy marriages within their own families or circles of friends.

The desire to maintain personal freedom is another reason men may delay getting married. They fear that tying the knot will limit their ability to spend time with friends or engage in spontaneous activities. The need to account for their whereabouts and include their spouse in decision-making can be perceived as a loss of independence, leading them to cling to their bachelorhood.

Financial insecurity is yet another obstacle that keeps men from committing to marriage. Some individuals lack the necessary resources to fund a wedding, let alone support a family. They may be working hard and saving money with the intention of getting married in the future, but their current financial status prevents them from taking the next step. Others may have a stable income but feel the need to achieve a higher level of financial success, such as becoming a millionaire, owning property, or establishing a business, before settling down.

The allure of a carefree, bachelor lifestyle can also contribute to the delay in marriage. Some men find it difficult to give up the freedom to date multiple partners and engage in casual relationships. They enjoy the thrill of pursuing different women and fear that committing to one person will hinder their ability to explore and experience variety in their romantic lives.

For other men, the search for the perfect partner seems endless. They may have yet to find someone who meets their standards or with whom they feel a deep connection. While some genuinely haven't encountered their ideal match, others may be overly picky, setting unrealistic expectations and disregarding potential partners due to minor flaws or differences.

In some cases, spiritual issues may be at play, causing men to struggle with forming lasting relationships. They may find it challenging to maintain a connection with a partner or experience a series of failed relationships. These men might benefit from seeking spiritual guidance and addressing any underlying issues that might be hindering their ability to find love and commit to marriage.

Lastly, there are the "married bachelors," men who cohabitate with their partners without formalizing their union through marriage. These men often enjoy the benefits of a committed relationship, such as shared responsibilities, emotional support, and physical intimacy, without the legal and social obligations that come with marriage. The comfort and convenience of this arrangement may deter them from making their relationship official through matrimony.

In conclusion, the reasons men delay getting married are complex and diverse, ranging from personal fears and insecurities to practical considerations and lifestyle preferences. Understanding these factors can provide valuable insight for both men and women, fostering empathy, and facilitating open communication. Ultimately, each individual must navigate their own path and determine the right time for them to embark on the journey of marriage.

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