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Kundali matching for marriage in India: Pro & Cons

This is an attempt to give meaning to our traditional methods of match-making which have been grossly misunderstood in modern society.

By KedarConnectPublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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Kundali matching or matching of the horoscopes has been going on in India for many generations. From invoking gods to celebrating any major events in life, the art of kundali reading, or astrology is used to define events. One of those important defining moments in one's life is that of marriages. Marriages historically have been considered sacrosanct in Indian society, and they still are. But the way people get married has evolved. From the totality of having an arranged marriage to more of a mix of arranging and self, the process has changed, but the very fundamentals of life on which it's based has not.

Even research has proven that there is a strong connection between a person's married life and their career. The impact of one's personal life has a profound effect on one’s professional life. Can kundli matching for marriage be the answer to helping couples enter into successful relationships?

The answer could be a yes. Kundali matching should, as any other, be taken as a tool to help couples enter into long-term healthy relationships. With time, matching horoscopes also evolved. The convention of what is called a “Gun-Milan” was largely based on the placement of the Moon in a particular Nakshatra. In contrast, it completely ignores other planets' influence on marriages. With modern empirical research, it has been concluded that those people who do kundali matching should either go for a comprehensive Kundali Milan or marry without matching the charts with just a small counseling session before the marriage. For those who understand the art of kundali matching, there are several advantages to using this as a tool to start a happy and married life -

1. A great way of cross-checking compatibility - For those who can match the horoscopes well, it is a great way to gage into the future, and analyze not only the behavioral aspects of two individuals, but also long term success of marriage, the health of progeny

2. It is a great way to solidify your conviction - if you are already convinced about an individual, then taking a 360 degree view to look at a person’s horoscope and matching it completely, becomes one more way to solidify your conviction in a relationship and help it move to the next phase. It also helps remove the air of any uncertainty you could have regarding your future partner.

3. Empirical evidence suggests it has been successfully used for many generations: One good thing about kundali matching is that it has been successfully used by generations of people. There is empirical data, suggesting that if properly done, it's a great tool that can be used by society to its advantage.

On the other hand, the cons are as many as the pros.

1. Kundali Milan offers no guarantee - As much as we would like to believe it., there is no guarantee that this will work all the time. Matching kundali is a function of the person who is reading and/or matching it. If they are not competent, often the interpretations of the rules will be wrong.

2. It may feed into superstition - For those who do not really understand the art of kundali matching but have made it as a profession to make money, have given a bad rap to this science. Their shallow understanding of the very concepts of astronomy, the human body, and the interrelation of nature and its impact on human life, often leads them to propagate superstition in society. They propagate many elaborate rituals that mother nature does not need. These people are a source of superstition and should be avoided.

3. The only decision tool - People who often match kundali forget that there is a whole world out there. Logic and reasoning should not be replaced by Kundali milan - something many people can often do. Just because you married a partner with high compatibility does not automatically mean that you will have a happy married life.

In Kedar Connexions case, many kundali matches for Marathi couples are undertaken by astrologers rather than an automated system, and we propagate a 360 degree view of one's life with kundali matching as one tool to be used to define and enter into successful marriages.

In India are considered extremely holy and sacred. Arranged marriages are deeply rooted in Indian society and a large proportion of people still prefer arranged marriage setup in India. Horoscope matchmaking is a prominent way of identifying potential matches in India. Based on the principles of astrology, Kundali Milan is considered to be an extremely reliable way of finding an ideal partner.

In our last interview, Dr Vinay Bajrangi, one of India's best astrologers, revealed a very strong connection between a person's married life and career/profession. And also, that person's married life can affect their career directly, so we were inclined to know what one should do to have a happy married life? And you should not get surprised that he attributed all secrets of married life to matching the kundli. He says marriage is a union of two persons, but a perfect horoscope matching for marriage plays a pivotal role in this union. We also asked him can a person not marry without matching the charts? And extended this subject by asking him some prevalent questions related to how horoscopes matching works in astrology and what one should know for matching charts for marriage.

The onset of the Internet saw a rise in numerous popular and genuine matrimonial sites in India. With the motive of offering effective and relevant Indian matchmaking services, myriads of these sites offer services of online kundali matching for their clients.

Are you amongst those people who believe in kundali? Well, then give this article a read. It will walk you through the benefits and disadvantages of Kundali matchmaking, in an absolute neutral way.

1. Excellent way of assuring compatibility.

A successful marriage doesn’t consist of 2 people with similar interests. It is based on the compatibility between two partners. You see, marriages exist for a longer period and it cannot be a successful and happy process if the partners within it aren’t in the capability of living with each other.

Kundali matching or better regarded as horoscope matching is simply the calculation of aligned stars that states the compatibility between two partners. The higher the ratio of aligned stars the higher is the chance of marriage being successful.

2. It doesn’t leave any room for confusion.

It removes the air of any uncertainty you could have regarding your future partner. Just like certain zodiac signs make for an exceptional pair, the same is the case with kundali matchmaking. It gives you assurance and certainty that the person chosen for you is a perfect match for you.

3. Certain traditions are worth following.

It’s all about faith. Based on these traditions our ancestors found their life partners. And what is the harm in believing in such matchmaking if you’ve already faced hard luck finding your life partner? It is worth giving a try before hissing this entire process as superficial.

1. It offers no guarantee.

There is no proven track record of Kundali being the most efficient way of partner match. Even the people with the highest possible aligned stars get divorced at a later stage and we have seen people with minimum aligned stars staying together till the end unlike anticipated. Hence, it wouldn’t be best in your interests to weigh your decisions based on astrology.

2. It feeds superstitions.

We couldn’t continue to use the age-old methods of matchmaking when the world around us has changed drastically. People are getting more educated and kundali matchmaking to them is nothing but another of a deeply rooted superstition in society.

We live in a world of limitless possibilities. Why should we hamper our choice of partner just because some horoscope match passed the verdict of you being incompatible?

3. You undertake your marriage negligently.

If you have used kundali match-making while finalizing your marriage you are probable to take your marriage more negligently. Just because you married a partner with high compatibility and horoscope test concluded you and your partner to be the perfect match you would not put in efforts in your marriage.

On the contrary, you would associate every bad event to be unlucky if you knew beforehand that the stars of your partner don’t align with yours. It is easier to blame fate rather than acknowledging your mistakes when you take the help of horoscope matchmaking.

There couldn’t be a direct conclusion as to whether kundali matchmaking is fruitful or not. It varies from individual to individual and nothing could change the conditioning of your culture and values.

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Kedar Connect is a Marathi matrimonial service provider that offers many marriage-related solutions for individuals across the globe who can access them from a single platform. For further information, please visit: https://kedarconnect.com

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