How many families have been destroyed by marriages without words

When men and women are in love, they talk about the past and the present, chat about the earth, and have endless things to say to each other, only to hate that the time spent together is too short, and there are many things in their hearts that they have not said, and they are facing separation.

They are anxiously looking forward to the next meeting time, always feel that there is a stomach want to say, hope to express to each other know so that we understand each other more clearly.

As the romance progresses, both men and women also enter into marriage, and the excitement that comes with being newly married fades away over time, leaving only the simple things to do and the burnout that comes from both sides due to over-familiarity.

01 An enviable marriage

Fang has a marriage that everyone envies. In the eyes of everyone, Fang is an extremely lucky person, she has an elite husband, a company executive, with a substantial salary, so Fang does not need to bear the economic pressure, what they want to buy can not think too much, directly swipe the card on it.

The husband is also courteous to her parents-in-law, as long as she accompanies her to her mother's house, she will bring gifts of great value, so that neighbors have to see ts-ts praise, saying that Along married a good husband, and even her parents also follow the glory.

Every time they saw the neighbors' praise, Fang's parents were all smiling and happy, as if they were proud to have raised such a daughter, but their mouths even said: "It's just a small employee."

Seeing the joyful expressions of her parents, Fang felt that her cold marriage was not useless, at least it could make her parents happy, so she was, and perhaps most people's marriages are like that.

It turns out that Fang's marriage is not as successful as everyone sees it, but Fang is good at saving face and never talks about it to outsiders, but just puts the grievances in the bottom of her heart and digests them slowly.

02 Marriage without words

When Fang and her husband first got married, her husband did love her and Fang did spend a happy time. Now Along thinks of the newlywed, Along feels as if it is the last century.

This sweet time did not last long, the husband will gradually put the focus on the phone, after work no longer around themselves, but often to the sofa, pull out the phone and start to brush up.

The husband often sits on the sofa, takes out his mobile phone, and starts to brush it up. Looking at Ah Feng walking around in front of him, as if he didn't see anyone, many times even if Ah Feng talks to her husband, he usually doesn't say a word.

In the morning, Ah Feng watched her husband take a razor and carefully shave his beard in the mirror, Ah Feng decided to break the silence. She gathered the courage to walk up to her husband and said to him, "My parents called yesterday and told me a very interesting thing about ......"

Looking at her husband still looking at the mirror, Fang continued, "You do not know, that neighbor ......" Her husband did not even look at her, walked straight to the closet, took out the clothes, and then dropped the words, "Go to work! "

Regardless of what Fang said, Fang has been frozen in place, and heard the sound of her husband closing the door, only to wake up like a dream, thinking to himself: 8:30 in the morning, this is the first thing he said to me today!

Is Ah Feng's husband not good with words? He is not. Once Ah Feng went to deliver soup to her husband at noon, and when she came to the company lounge, she heard her husband and some colleagues chatting.

A colleague said: "Yesterday's soccer has watched, too wonderful, especially the second goal, can be selected as the top ten goals this year, ah? Have you watched it?"

At this time, Ah Fang heard her husband's voice: "Why didn't you watch it, I saw the final whistle yesterday. That goal was really good, but that pass was the best."

Another colleague said in an envious tone, "You guys are really good, your wives can still be so happy at home!"

Fang's husband replied in disbelief, "What's more important than watching football?" As she heard her husband talking, Ah Feng knocked on the door with her soup and came in.

Seeing that it was Ah Feng, her husband said with slight dissatisfaction, "What are you doing here?"

Ah, Fang hurriedly explained, "You watched football too late yesterday, I'm afraid you're not in good spirits today, so I made you some American ginseng chicken soup, you can drink it!"

The husband impatiently took the soup while saying "Got it" and pushed Fang towards the door, as if Fang's arrival had humiliated him.

At this time, colleagues looked at Fang's husband and said with a smile: "OK, this wife is trained by you, not only to stay up late to watch the game but also to make soup for you to send."

The husband put the soup on the table: "You want to drink soup, I'm full." At this time, colleagues came over to taste Ah Feng's soup, while praising the great skill of making soup!

03 The deserter of marriage

Fang's daily life is quiet, never answered her husband's phone calls, no messages from him on We Chat, silence is the norm every day.

Even when she returned every day, Fang greeted her husband warmly, "You're back, the food will be ready soon!" He always says that the hour is his alone time and he doesn't want to be disturbed.

He always said that the hour was his alone time and he didn't want to be disturbed. When he ate, he also ate while holding his phone and watching, sometimes laughing, but more often in silence. Fang sometimes wanted to break this silence by asking, "Is there anything interesting at work, can you tell me about it?"

Her husband just shook his head, and after a while, he pushed over a cup and said to Fang, "There's no water!" Avon had to pick up the cup and get up to pour a glass of water, as if only at the moment when he needed a drink did he realize that two people were living in the house.

At one o'clock late at night, Fang looked at the computer still open, holding the phone and other people chatting with voice, concerned, "late at night, go to bed early!" Her husband replied that he was still busy and told her to go to sleep first. At this time, lying in bed, Fang also tossed and turned and could not sleep, she was afraid to wake up and face a silent suffocating day.

Outside is a chatterbox, home is mute, originally two people's marriage, but live into the loneliness of Fang alone, even if others look more beautiful, Fang still chooses to leave alone.

04 The horror of marriage without words

Why is it that two people who started to love each other ended up talking from nothing to nothing, and became nothing to talk about? Sometimes even if we barely talk, it's just to talk about who's getting another car, and their family's money is going to be less, because these expenses can't be less, and talking about it, we're not interested in talking.

Think carefully, in addition to food and oil, how long have two people have not had a good chat, this kind of day for a long time, is not also beginning to get used to, although the heart knows that this is not good, no one is willing to take the initiative to find each other to chat, afraid that we talk and talk, and began to compare with others or both sides argued.

We can try to talk about simple or interesting things that will not lead to quarrels or annoyance on the line. We can become friends, not from the beginning of the nonsense conversation. The couple is also talking about more interesting things than friends to develop into.

Chatting is the most useless but also the most useful of all close relationships, if used well, we all harmonize, you and me; if used poorly, we unknowingly drift apart, and the mind is distanced with space.

Many people do not realize the importance of chatting, even more, mature adults also need to communicate with each other. In our lives, besides "you go buy a bag of salt", and "children's tutoring classes to pay".

It is more important to say to each other "I came across a very interesting thing today", or even "I miss you", "I love you" and such "meat and potatoes". "These words should be part of the daily conversation.

Foreigners, who say "I love you" all the time are not necessarily true lovers, but if you never say "I love you" to each other, how can you let them know that you love them?

As in the case of "Ten Thousand Words", the love between Ni Ambiguous and Pang Julian died because there were no words to say. At first, they were just indifferent, but then they found that it was too late to say anything, and finally, their marriage only remained tragic.

05 Correction, starting from now

People have originally herded animals, fear of loneliness is human nature, one of the purposes of marriage is to find someone to spend the rest of their lives with them so that in the long years, the two can talk about the parents