The Erotic Persona and Romanticizing BDSM

As I dig deep into understanding my own proud empowered erotic persona, I myself have a few questions lined up in my head. The very understanding of persona in reference to the works of Carl Jung is perhaps a way to start. Not everyone will be interested in picking up and follow his work (like I do since I was 18) for sure and the complexities of his study and theory but a little peak into this will enable one to understand why the erotic persona is hardly ever directly related to BDSM.

I was going through the piles of available resources on erotica online and majority of which often tackles erotic persona or something that relates to it as commonly within bounds of romance or BDSM, worse --mix of both.

What is a Persona?

Let me first quote directly from: Britannica Encyclopedia https://www.britannica.com/science/persona-psychology

Persona, in psychology, the personality that an individual projects to others, as differentiated from the authentic self. The term, coined by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, is derived from the Latin persona, referring to the masks worn by Etruscan mimes. One of the Jungian archetypes, the persona enables an individual to interrelate with the surrounding environment by reflecting the role in life that the individual is playing. In this way one can arrive at a compromise between one’s innate psychological constitution and society. Thus the persona enables the individual to adapt to society’s demands.

This definition of persona offers clarification on what I am trying to convey in my exploration of Proud Empowered Erotic Persona as a way to talk more and hopefully resolve our life problems. We have a variety of masks available for, we choose to wear what we consider best to relate and function to any given environment. The erotic persona I am speaking about is but one that reflects and perhaps is the key to solve many of our life problems. You see the society we live in is very confining for our default mental function. This confinement is the root of many issues and the absence of it, well, as you may have noticed throughout history, will either create a trailblazer of you and make you become a distinguished personality in history or you will be thrown into the loony bin. The latter is usually the case for many of us.

To bridge the gaps, we choose a mask to arrive at a point of compromise, as such we can be viewed as “normal” or “efficient.” But the available masks we wear are often on auto-pilot. Each, as we grow older with the obvious influence of the societies and generation we evolve in, our personas become attached to so many memories, memories causing problems we never even give our attention to. Each mask then becomes a program running on auto-pilot. Management of these personas can become troublesome, when it does we question the authenticity of self and then begin to question the nature of genuine reality. This loop is the cause of many life problems.

The Erotic Persona’s Flavor May Range From Vanilla to the Unique and Exotic Mix of Just About Anything

So the erotic persona you have may be vanilla, and there is nothing wrong with that. If it is rather extreme, then there is also nothing wrong with that if done within safe spaces of consent. There is no direct relation to erotic persona and BDSM and anyone who confuses erotic persona with acts of BDSM is not in the proper frame of understanding both.

Romanticizing BDSM, is it normal?

I guess the main reason it is easy to romanticize BDSM is because of the range of roles involved. The submissive and the dominant, what a wonderful play, a short or prolonged drama within a world of strangers and lovers alike. This drama became an appealing plot and theme in novels and movies. To blame Fifty Shades of Grey is not right, there are countless novels out there with the same theme. Some of the dominant knights, warriors, princes and kings but most do not make it to mainstream film.

I would admit that I walk the borderline when it comes to sex. I am one dirty woman and enjoy being a “switch.” But there is so much more about my filth that I would be willing to share at once. And you may have guessed it right if you first thought, psycho-social problems.

My attraction to the world of BDSM came as a big surprise to me and the limits were often pushed beyond physical, often it is more psychological. Some are very liberating and others? I would just say, it’s not for me.

The point I am trying to make here is that, erotic persona is not in anyway referenced as BDSM and vice versa. And another point is that we should really start talking about falsely romanticizing BDSM. There may be instances that it can be but it is dangerous for the heart and mind to even use it as a tool to attract a romantic partner.

Here are things related to an empowered erotic persona:

1. Understanding power dynamics in the society and the role most advantageous for you in a given environment.
2. It liberates your mind from trauma that may have become a mental program that is left unnoticed.
3. Empowering your erotic persona may provide solutions to common life problems and may even hold the key to solving complex life issues.
4. An empowered erotic persona can be your key to a successful relationship not only with a romantic partner but most importantly relationship with self.
5. Elevating your erotic persona can help release stress in the most healthy way.
6. Your erotic persona is key to alignment with your ideal self, physically and psychologically.
7. Understanding the system where erotic persona operates gives you a great potential to heal multitude of problems and create new mental programs for improved overall self.
8. Your erotic persona may heal and stop your other personas to function in a way that produce more problems in your life.
9. The proud empowered erotic persona is a transformational system that will allow a happier life by conquering life problems effectively that are often rooted in lack of self-confidence and misaligned self-understanding.
10. An empowered erotic persona compliments your other personas and bring about their best versions.