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Six Effective Ways To Keep Your Anger Under Control

Prevent anger from ruining your relationships

By Robert Who WritesPublished 4 months ago 5 min read
Prevent anger from ruining your relationships

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. However, when anger affects our daily lives negatively, it can become a problem.

If you find yourself getting angry quickly, here are six effective ways to keep your anger under control.

1. Identify the Situations That Are Most Likely to Trigger Your Anger

Anyone who has ever felt the heat of anger knows it can be overwhelming and destructive.

It can be challenging to think clearly or make rational decisions in the moment. That's why it's essential to take steps to keep your anger under control.

One way to control your feelings is to identify those situations most likely to trigger your anger.

Perhaps you tend to get angry when you feel rushed or when dealing with bureaucracy. Maybe you get frustrated when you're stuck in traffic or when things don't go according to plan.

Once you know what situations are likely to trigger your anger, you can take steps to avoid them or to prepare for them.

For example, if you know that being stuck in traffic is a trigger, you can allow yourself extra time to get where you're going.

Taking such proactive measures can help keep your anger under control and prevent it from boiling over into a destructive force.

2. Take a Few Deep Breaths and Count to 10 Before Reacting

One way to keep your anger under control is by taking a few deep breaths and counting to 10 before you react. This will allow you to calm down and think about how you want to respond.

It's also essential to be conscious of your body language and keep your hands at your sides or in fists. If you can keep your anger under control, you'll be able to handle any situation more effectively.

3. Remove Yourself From the Situation if Possible

An effective way to keep your anger under control is to remove yourself from the situation, if possible. This can be difficult to do in the heat of passion, but it can make a big difference.

If you can step away from the situation, even for just a few minutes, it can help you to calm down and see things more clearly.

Once you have removed yourself from a potentially charged situation, take a few deep breaths and focus on relaxing your body.

If you are still too angry to deal with the situation, it is best to stay away until you have cooled off completely.

Remember, it's always better to deal with things when you are in a calm and rational frame of mind.

4. Talk to Someone About What’s Going On - Preferably Someone Who Will Be Supportive

Many people find it helpful to talk about what's going on in their lives with someone who is supportive.

When we keep our anger under control by talking to someone who understands and cares about us, we can process our feelings and begin to resolve the situation that is causing us distress.

Talking about our problems can also help us see them from a different perspective and develop a plan for dealing with them effectively.

In addition, venting our frustration to a supportive listener can help us feel better and release some of our tension.

If you are struggling to keep your anger under control, consider talking to a friend, family member, therapist, or another supportive person.

5. Exercise or Do Something Calming, Like Yoga or Meditation

Another good way to keep your anger under control is to get some exercise. Exercise helps to release built-up tension and frustration, and it can also help to improve your mood.

If you don't have time for an entire workout, even a quick jog or walk will help dissipate your angry feelings.

Another option is to do something calming, like yoga or meditation. These activities can help to center and ground you, making it easier to cope with stressful situations.

If you find yourself getting angry, try one of these techniques and see if it makes a difference.

6. Write Down Your Thoughts and Feelings in a Journal

One more way to keep your anger under control is to write down your thoughts in a journal. This can help you get your thoughts and feelings out constructively rather than bottling them up or lashing out in anger.

Additionally, it can help you to see your triggers and patterns more clearly, and to find new ways of dealing with your anger. For example, if you notice that you usually get angry when you are tired, you can make a point of getting more rest.

Or, if you find that certain people or situations tend to trigger your anger, you can try to avoid those triggers or deal with them differently. Writing in a journal can be a helpful way to keep your anger under control.


We hope these tips will help you manage your anger in a healthy way and maintain better relationships with those around you. The next time you feel anger start to rise up, try one of the above six ways to keep it under control.

Take care of yourself and practice healthy anger management techniques. Practice them often, and before long, they will become second nature. Remember that your physical and mental well-being are equally vital, so don't let anger take over.

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About the Creator

Robert Who Writes

I like to share advice on relationships & self-improvement. My interests include reading, psychology, personal development, learning foreign languages.

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